What do you think men find alluring in a woman? Whatever answer you gave…it’s probably wrong.  It’s not about your appearance. It’s not about being a certain way or doing certain things to trick or coerce a man into wanting you. It’s about connecting to yourself in a way that attracts a man who will love, cherish, and honor you. Not one who just wants to f*ck around and keep you around to boost his ego. There’s a reason I go on and on and on about connecting to yourself on a deep...

Why do we insist on seeking answers from sources outside ourselves? I’m not exempt, either. When I got my brand-new car and got into my brand-new house—things I’d been pining over for such a long time—I had an incredibly sobering, f*****g shattering moment of ego death where I realized, “Michelle, you've lost yourself in the pursuit of all of those things. Now what?” And that’s not to say I was wrong for wanting or pursuing those things. But I want all of those things and a connection to...

Um…is that number right? You see it too, yeah? We have officially hit 150 MOTHERFUCKING EPISODES. And to celebrate the big 150…I want to give you a bit of coaching I have given to sooo many women…including myself. How to stop mothering your man. Yeah. This one’s hard for me, I’m going to be honest. But if you ever want to be able to be in your feminine energy, lean back, and receive from your partner, you have to figure out how to let your man handle his own life…and not step in every...

Raise your hand if you’ve ever thought about getting back together with an ex. My hand’s up. No shame here. Pretty much everyone has, right? It’s natural—when you lose your safe person, no matter what reasons there were to break up, you’re obviously going to miss them and want them back… But that doesn’t mean it’s the right choice to make. Doesn’t mean it’s the wrong one, either. Reconnecting with someone after a breakup—whether it’s a romantic OR platonic breakup—can work. It can...

Here’s a spicy little take for you… So many of our “limitations” are self-imposed…because we glorify our own convenience and comfort over actually seeing some growth. I recently signed up for a training I’ve been wanting to do for years. Actual f*cking years. I signed up, I paid in full, I booked for a single room, and… They messaged back and told me they only had dorms available. Shit. If you don’t know this about me, I haaate sharing my sleeping space, period. My partner and I don’t...

When I first started trying to be emotionally vulnerable with my partners…it did NOT go well. At first, finding my voice looked a lot like dumping all my emotions onto my partner and expecting him to hold them. And according to our guest this week, that’s actually very common…but it’s also not ideal. If you tend to bury your partner in an emotional avalanche when you’re trying to share your feelings—or you struggle to share them at all—then I’d like you to meet Chantelle Raven: founder and...

Confession… When I first heard about scripting manifestation, I thought it was suuuuch b******t. Like, I’m sorry…you mean to tell me that if I write down what I want, it’s just magically going to happen for me? I don’t think so. Well, that is exactly what I f*cking mean to tell you. Because scripting manifestation is actually THE shit, not b******t. Scripting is a powerful manifestation tool I use aaall the f*****g time…and when I tell you it works, it WORKS. If you think you’re shit at...

Let’s talk about unf*cking your relationship…with MONEY. Yes, you do have a relationship with money—everyone does. I do, you do, your next door neighbor does, your best friend does…you get it. Some people love money. Some people hate it. Some people are afraid of it… But mostly, people are ASHAMED of it. Our society puts sooo much money shame on people…especially women. It’s taboo. We’re not supposed to talk about it. If we do, we’re bragging. If we spend it, we’re reckless. If we hoard...

If you’ve heard me talk about “shadows” and “shadow work” and been like, “WTF is she even talking about?” then strap in, my loves: I’m about to enroll you in Shadow Work 101. For today’s episode, I’m sharing the first session of my free three-day program all about shadow work. You’ve probably heard of it by now: it’s a little thing I like to call SHADOW HUNTER. I’m going to go over what shadows are, give you a few examples, what shadow work is, and why it’s so important…even if most of us...

Hands up if you’re someone who deals with a F*CKTON of anxiety, depression, and/or dysregulation. (You’re in good company. Just a couple years ago, both my hands would’ve been in the air too.) If that’s you, I’ve got some amazing news: today’s guest has exactly the toolset you need to start climbing out of constant dysregulation. I am so thrilled to welcome Anna Ferguson (aka @annatheanxietycoach, find her on Instagram!) to the podcast! Anna is a qualified counselor, coach, author of The...

“I keep trying and trying, but the men I’m attracting just aren’t it. Why can’t I find a man that meets my standards?” I don’t know…do you keep compromising on those standards, maybe? Here’s the thing. A lot of people don’t feel like they’re compromising, because they settle for an “almost.” He’s “almost” what you said you wanted. He “almost” gives you everything you need in a relationship. You’re “almost” happy. Almost isn’t good enough. We’re not settling for “almost.” Today, I’m going...

Close your eyes and picture something you desperately want. Maybe it’s 50K months. Maybe it’s the conscious relationship of your dreams. Maybe it’s a business where clients come flocking to you whenever you put out a new offer. Maybe it’s the “it girl” life. I’ll tell you this for free: all these things are available to you.  There is no difference between the celebrities you idolize and you. There is no difference between the influencer you follow on Instagram and you. There is no...

A client recently asked me, “How does it feel to be averaging 50K months?” They were probably expecting answers like, “It feels unbelievable,” or “I’m the happiest I’ve ever been,” or “It’s f*cking insane.” You want to know what my answer actually was? “It feels neutral.” I can hear you already: “Whaaat the f*ck, Michelle? You make some people’s annual salary in 30-odd days, and that just feels NORMAL to you?” Honestly…yeah. Anything gets to become normal if we do it for long enough....

Sit down, throw on your favorite headphones, and settle in, babes–this is a long one, but a f*****g GREAT one. You know why? Because I asked YOU wonderful people for questions I could answer on the podcast…and you all f*****g DELIVERED. These are some of the best questions I’ve gotten, and I’m psyched to get to answer them. Some of them are going to be tough to swallow–some were tough for me to get through.  I’m not going to lie…I got pretty emotional in this one. Some of these questions...

You want the key to being happy consistently? Here it is, babes: Building hot girl habits.  You get consistently happy by consistently doing things that make you feel good—and that requires you to turn those things into habits. You want those things to become second nature for you, not things you only do every so often. Your life as it is now is the result of habits you started building weeks, months…even years ago. So if you’re able to start building happier habits now…how much of a...

Trigger warning, babes… Or rather, a word of warning ABOUT triggers: If you try to control everything in your external environment to prevent yourself from getting triggered, you’re never going to transcend any of your shadows. Period. Sooo many people doing personal development work get so f*****g fragile about their triggers that they will set a million unnecessary boundaries to keep themselves in a bubble of safety. But we can’t evolve in a f*****g bubble; we need to be able to face...

Here’s something you might not know about me: I have genital herpes. And you know what else? It’s not a f*cking big deal. Herpes is an extremely common STI. But with all the stigma and misinformation floating around, it’s also common to be living in total f*cking shame about it… Which is what my lovely guest today, Bek Antonucci, is working to change. Bek is an emotional wellbeing coach for women (also called a confidence coach) and supports women in breaking free from any of their...

Welcome to confidence boot camp, b*tches. Confidence is like anything else: everyone wants it, but not everyone is willing to do the work to get it. Yes, I said work. Confidence doesn’t just happen. It isn’t something you’re born with. You have to f*cking work for it.  I consider myself to be a confident person. And you know how committed I am to not softening my message to be more palatable to other people. But I’ll be honest…last year, I faltered in that a little bit. I lost my grip on...

Here on UFYR, we’ve been diving deep into the world of attachment styles and how to “heal” them…aka, how to get from anxious, avoidant, or disorganized to secure af. But I see a lot of people struggle with taking the steps toward ACTUALLY making that change. So today, I am thrilled to introduce someone who wrote the book (literally) on shifting your attachment style to secure: Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick! If you’re unfamiliar, Dr. Fedrick is a licensed professional counselor and relationship...

You hear me talk about shadow work aaall the f*cking time in this space…but how do you know if you actually need to DO it? Shadow work is a very buzzy term these days…and honestly, I think it’s great.  I want people to get more involved in shadow work, because once you start viewing your life through the lens of shadow work, I am so serious: your entire life will transform. Not just your romantic relationships, but your relationship to money, your relationship to yourself, your relationship...

If you hear the word “addiction” and think gambling, drugs, alcohol, etc…you’re not alone. As my partner Drew Wild says, there is a huge stigma around addiction that often results in people holding a lot of judgment around it…and keeps them from recognizing that they are also addicts. “Michelle, wtf are you talking about? I’m not an addict.” Wanna bet? We all have our vices. We all have our drugs…even you. Don’t believe me? Trust me, by the end of this podcast episode, you’re going to...

Last week was for my ANXIOUSLY ATTACHED people out there…this week, we’re going over how to heal AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT. Learning the difference between wanting to leave a relationship because it’s the wrong relationship and wanting to leave because your avoidance gets triggered is f*****g hard. But it starts by observing your patterns, clocking them…and when you feel yourself want to run, you choose to lean in instead. It’s hard. It’s terrifying. And you’re not always going to get it right....

Hello, loves. Let’s talk about healing anxious attachment. Every time I do an episode about anxious attachment, BOOM! It magically becomes one of my most popular episodes. So I know this message is f*****g needed—and I know you’re going to benefit from hearing it. Even if it includes a big dose of tough love. I have been where you are. I used to spend 80% of my time in anxious attachment mode, and it was f*****g hell. But to start healing that, I couldn’t just read all the books, listen to...

WELCOME TO 2024, BITCHES! I f*****g LOVE the first day of a new year…no surprise, cause I’m also a Monday girl. Most people are all about the weekend, but not me. I love fresh energy. I love new possibilities. And I’m welcoming 2024 in with open arms…and bold intentions. Intention-setting has changed EVERYTHING for me. But here’s the thing about intention setting… I believe in setting big, bold intentions. But in my experience, a lot of people set safe intentions they KNOW they can...

All right, my loves, here’s the deal…we’ve all gone through a breakup. Some were so f*****g painful that we didn’t think we’d make it through. Others, we were totally over before they even happened. And some…some we’re still working on unpacking all the way. There’s some pretty cooked things we do when we’re going through breakups, and there’s a reason for it: breakups bring out aaall the shit that we keep buried otherwise. Our wounds. Our shadows. Our insecurities. But there’s a better...