This episode is designed to do three things: Give you clarity on how to figure out the root cause of your child's controlling and avoidant behavior - Is it Anxiety, OCD and/or Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)?Help you notice subtle differences in controlling and avoidant behavior to determine if there is more than one thing going on.Encourage you to startobserving and tracking your chlid or teen's unique "indicators" (Basic Needs access, Connection and Trust with you, and Nervous System Stress) over the long term so you can make decisions about what type of approach is more supportive of your family (Exposure vs. Accommodation). Happy Listening! Casey ps. Here is the link if you are interested in getting on the waitlist for the the next cohort of the Paradigm Shift Program. Citations: Polyvagal Theory steven PorgesThe Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma  (Good explanation of what happens to our bodies when we go into "fight or flight." Helpful for understanding the PDA child's experience)What happened to you (Oprah and Dr. Perry)The Whole-Brain childBeyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children's Behavioral ChallengesUnwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear and Heal your Mind.