As I, Trish Stanford, pull back the curtain on my own dating disasters, I invite you to witness the treacherous allure of those deceiving 'butterflies.' They were danger signs, masquerading as excitement, leading me down the path of obsession and mirroring the disarray of past traumas. This episode peels away the layers of false thrills to uncover a profound insight: true peace and stability in relationships should evoke calm, not chaos. We explore why the flutter of attraction can be a cautionary tale for those of us finding our way out of narcissistic abuse, and how the soothing tranquility found in genuine friendships has become my new beacon of hope. Venturing further, we dissect the facade of charm in toxic relationships through my own experiences with a captivating father and charming ex-husbands. These reflections serve as a stark reminder of the hidden snares within alluring encounters and the importance of honoring one's instincts amid red flags. Join me on this heartfelt journey towards healing, as at 44, I continue to learn the vital difference between the fleeting butterflies and the enduring serenity that marks a true connection. This weekly podcast is more than just stories—it's a steady climb to self-betterment and a collective endeavor to embrace our best lives. Thank you for listening! Link up! Instagram @awakenwildone Interact in our community! awakenwildone.com Unleash your best life!