My research findings were not unique. The late sex therapist Bernie Zilbergeld studied 100 couples...to [his] surprise, his overwhelming finding was the unimportance of technique. What [mattered?] The sexually active partners had a closer friendship and were committed to making sex a priority.   -John Gottman "What Makes Love Last"   Contact me at [email protected] Check out more about Gottman's Affair Recovery Model here.  Watch on YouTube here.  P.S. If you enjoyed this check out my other review on what DOES make therapist better here.