TRIGGER WARNING: THIS EPISODE CONTAINS A DISCUSSION OF SENSITIVE TOPICS PERTAINING TO DEATH AND TRAUMA Have you suppressed your pain and trauma in the past? How does unresolved trauma manifest in reality? Why should you commit to yourself to heal the pain? In this podcast episode, Billy and Brandy Eldridge speak about healing trauma with Madehania Baheta. Meet Madehania Baheta Madehania is a Refugee turned Marine turned Doctoral Candidate. His family escaped war in 1979, and he then lived in a refugee camp, before coming to the USA in 1982. Subsequently, he joined the Marine Corps, where he served for 22 years. Currently, Madehania is pursuing his Doctoral degree. He is also a program manager at Pelaton where he has supervised, supported, and trained over 400 logisticians Connect with Madehania on LinkedIn.   In This Podcast Summary * Healing trauma after the event * Why you should consider working through your trauma * Look to your “why” for inspiration Healing trauma after the event After traumatic events, the stress and anxiety endured settle in the body, and unless we work through those events and “release” the trauma from our bodies, it will remain there. [My mother] had trauma and … she’d go to church, she’d just pray on it, that’s all she could do and that’s all she knew … [the trauma] still manifested somehow through yelling or breaking down. (Madehania Baheta) Studies have shown that people with “stuck” trauma and unresolved emotions are more likely to develop illnesses related to compromised immune systems. Therefore, resolving trauma and healing is both a mental and physical health necessity. Why you should consider working through your trauma Many people just want to move on after experiencing something difficult and have it be done. In the marine corps you don’t have time to deal with your feelings and no one goes and gets help because in the marine corps you’re supposed to just beat your chest and not look weak, but a lot of marines deal with PTSD and personal issues but they don’t get help because of the stigma around it. (Madehania Baheta) Sometimes people avoid talking about their trauma due to cultural clashes or for fear of judgment. However, sometimes people are afraid to resolve their trauma with the help of another person because they do not want to be abandoned, or to open themselves up only to be let down or told to suppress it. That is why you should seek professional help. I’m happy I did [get help] because it definitely helped me process a lot of stuff, grieve for my friend, and try to be a better husband and father at the same time. (Madehania Baheta) Look to your “why” for inspiration Why would you seek help? Who or what is important to you that you want to protect and become better for? Why should you try to be the best version of yourself? When you are struggling in life, look for your why. Look for the people who care about you or who you care about, look at your dreams and goals, and the things you want to experience in your life. Useful links: * Connect with Madehania on LinkedIn. * Moving On After Loss & Becoming a Sudden Caregiver with Karen Warner Schueler * Discover more at The Beta Male Revolution Website Meet Billy Eldridge Meet Billy, the resident beta male. For Billy, this is a place to hang out with other beta males and the people who love them. We’re redefining what beta males look like in the world....