Why do we always want what we can't have? And want to do the things we shouldn't do?   Sara and Jye invite Jayde Lovell, the YouTube host of popular science show SciQ, (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClydU5bsfQTzebnMMZ4CqUw) to shed some light from the fascinating world of neuroscience.    Jayde helps us understand how the brain is susceptible to the heightened risk and excitement of any forbidden sexual act - thanks dopamine and adrenaline!   We discuss how to overcome the shame around our sexual desires and erotic selves, given that what's "forbidden" constantly evolves with our social and cultural norms. Gay marriage, case in point!     Sara gives some coaching tips on using role play, fantasy and open conversations to "hijack" our brain chemistry and harness the energy of the "forbidden" as a positive force in our lives.    To submit your stories, questions and feedback for the show, or get tailored coaching on getting better in bed, find us at www.sarasense.com / follow @hellosarasense. Produced by Jye Smith (@doublestarco, [email protected]).