This mp3 is a talk given by J. Pittman McGehee, D.D. on 9-16-90 at Christ Church Cathedral Sunday School class in Houston, Texas. This is a story about the day Pittman’s Father died and the way men live with their ties cutting their bodies and feelings off at the neck. His intimacy at the end with his Father is revealing of the four Fs (feelings, failures, fantasies and fears) that he had a chance to hear before his Dad passed not knowing it would be the last time he saw him. In his Father’s life time, men would seal themselves off from so much because that is what they had to do. Even now, I would guess many men can relate to this kind of quiet desperation where their inner world is kept hidden from those that mean the most to them and even from themselves as they stoically stay on the left side of their brains.