How can we have more fulfilling and intimate sex? In this chat with gay sex tantra coach Finn Deerhart, we talk about the ins and outs of our sexual lives and the journey we can take to have more fulfilling sexual experiences. Specifically, we discuss how shame affects our sex lives, how to communicate our desires and preferences in sex, and how to use porn as a tool for self-inquiry and personal growth. Finn also shares practical exercises we can use to deepen our connection to our bodies and partners during sex.  Can't Host is a gay men’s sex and relationships podcast aiming to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, and explore the complex dynamics of gay relationships, with the aim of creating opportunities for healing and growth. We'll discuss whether size matters, question the top/bottom binary, talk about healing sexual trauma, how to overcome dick- and body-shame, falling out of love with someone, homonormativity, and more. If you're a gay guy who's frustrated with the rigid rules of the gay community, seeking more joy and authenticity in your sex life and relationships, you're in the right place! About Me I’m George Lizos, spiritual teacher, psychic healer, and #1 bestselling author. Growing up in a small Christian community, I was judged and rejected for being gay and different. After a futile two-year attempt to change who I was born to be, I called myself a human abomination and almost took my own life. Fortunately, in my darkest moment, I saw the light and ventured on a healing journey of love, forgiveness, and spiritual awakening. Yet, my gay dating life since hasn’t always been all roses and rainbows, and my past dramas and traumas have definitely kept things spicy. Fast forward past many awkward dates and disappointing sex, I Created Can’t Host to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, explore the complex dynamics of gay sex and relationships, and create opportunities for healing and growth. https://georgelizos.com/ About Finn Finn Deerhart is a sex and intimacy coach, helping gay and queer men ignite their eroticism and step into their emergent selves. Through my courses, workshops, retreats, and private sessions, men learn tools to confront their limitations, unravel internal narratives of shame, and spark deeper human connections—grounding themselves into a deeper experience of life. He also creates educational erotic content and provides on-site erotic coaching for various organizations, including Himeros TV, an online service that provides explicit educational content for queer men. Finn’s Instagram: https://instagram.com/finndeerhart  Finn’s website: https://www.finndeerhart.com  Resources Mentioned Polysecure, by Jessica Fern: https://www.amazon.com/Polysecure-Attachment-Trauma-Consensual-Nonmonogamy/dp/1944934987/ Velvet Rage, by Alan Downs: https://www.amazon.com/Velvet-Rage-Overcoming-Growing-Straight/dp/0738215678/ The Craft of Family Therapy, by Salvador Minuchin: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0415708125/ The Art of Receiving and Giving, by Betty Martin: https://www.amazon.com/Art-Receiving-Giving-Wheel-Consent/dp/1643883089/ Jason Tantra: https://www.tantra4gaymen.co.uk/facilitators-jason/ Connect With Me Instagram: https://instagram.com/georgelizos/  Website: https://georgelizos.com/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos  Facebook Group: http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/ My Books Be The Guru: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj  Lightworkers Gotta Work: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf  Protect Your Light: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd