Doctor Orion Taraban is a clinical psychologist and owner of the PsycHacks Youtube channel. @psychacks     In this episode we discuss the psychology of dating, the behavioral economics of dating and how those two things make men and women have very different incentives and approaches Thank you for listening! Subscribe to PsycHacks: https://www.youtube.com/@psychacks If You’d Like To Help Support The Podcast:  http://www.patreon.com/charismaoncommand If you enjoy the podcast please SUBSCRIBE and Click the Notification bell :bell:  TIMESTAMPS 00:00 INTRO 00:14 Why Women Go to Therapy 3 Times More Than Men 03:27 Is Therapy Better Fit for Women? 05:58 Men Find External Solutions to Internal Problems 10:55 Why Modern Men Are Struggling in Dating 13:30 Learning to Deal With Rejection 15:50 The Romantic Ideal: Men Have Been Lied To 20:53 Society’s Definition of Love Is Toxic 23:22 Jesus: How Much Sacrifice Does Love Require? 27:59 Loving Without Expecting Anything in Return 30:23 "Love People Like Cats" 32:29 Wounded People Recreate Their Traumatic Relationships 35:05 The Crossroads: Where Decisions Really Matter 37:14 How to Avoid Being Blinded by Emotions 39:27 Stopping Negative Thought Cycles 44:23 The Core of Mental Disorders: “Self-Focused Attention” 45:34 The Surprising Power of Stepping Away From Alcohol 47:22 The Black Pill: Young Men Giving Up on Life 51:46 The Antidote to Hopelessness 53:10 Being a Young Man Is Tough 54:49 Should You “Grind Out” Your 20s? 57:11 What It Means to Be a Man in 2023 1:01:19 The Changing Definitions of Masculinity and Femininity 1:05:05 Masculinity: “To Have a Spine and to Have a Pair” 1:07:40 Covid and Conformity 1:09:56 Having a Healthy Level of Self-Doubt 1:11:21 When Should You Stand Up Against the Crowd? 1:13:54 Is “Masculinity/Femininity” a Productive Framework? 1:17:30 Why Women Are Frustrated With Modern Dating 1:20:26 “Women Are Still Waiting for the Offer” 1:22:12 Why 99% of Women Will Be Disappointed 1:26:23 Can Evolutionary Psychology Explain Dating? 1:28:15 Forming Relationships: Can Compatibility Beat Status? 1:30:24 Beauty Doesn’t Make a Happy Relationship 1:32:04 “Find Your Ugly Duckling” 1:33:26 The Dark Horse Strategy 1:35:41 Debate: Do Looks/Finances Really Matter That Much? 1:39:16 Personality Disorders = Childhood Coping Mechanisms 1:41:39 Uncovering Internal Wounds Without Becoming a Victim 1:47:33 Can You Take on Too Much Responsibility? 1:48:59 You’re Not Always the Problem 1:51:16 The Pros and Cons of Spirituality 1:54:22 The Point of Religion: “A Felt Connection With the Divine” 1:57:37 People Never Love Each Other Exactly the Same Amount 2:00:05 Check Out PsycHacks on YouTube and oriontarabanpsyd.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy