I sat down with a child one day to ask   how does it feel for him. he had become violent to another Child I said we need to discuss this as this behaviour is not acceptable, I asked him why he became angry and violent he looked at me for a while and said these words to me It feels like I'm in Disgrace land as i sat there taking those words in, I wanted to cry and laugh at the same time because I know disgrace Land only too well but I've never heard anyone say it quite like him so my only thought, as we were both siting  there was this how do we get us both out of this land x