Love is probably one of the most frequently used words in the world. We use it in many contexts and for many purposes. We do all sorts of things in the name of love.   But do we really know what love is? Many think this is the strongest, most important emotion. The healing agent, the catalyst for all sorts of healing. And it is to some degree. It can bring us so much joy and happiness. And it can also be painful and hurtful.   There is one territory of love that I would like to address tonight specifically. I am sure you know this territory very well because it has been dominantly present in the atmosphere of growth and healing and change for the last couple of decades. This is the territory of love for the self.    How many of you have heard or read or been advised by this statement; You just need to love yourself?   I know I have been. And I know it is not so easy.   Why? I can list many reasons, but one pops up for me. This reason is called kindness. It is in the lap of kindness that we find true love. I am asking you what is love without kindness.   I see love as a very personal meaning that involves our engagement in life that has a specific direction. Where kindness is softer, more openhearted, and more impersonal. Kindness is woven into us and is one of the basic elements that the universe is made of. We are made out of kindness and with kindness.