If you spend most of your time with other queer people, do you ever need to come out?  Millie Poutama has dated women since she was a teenager but doesn't think she should have to come out. Millie believes queer people come out for the benefit of straight people, so by surrounding herself with an open and supportive queer community, she doesn't feel the need to label herself.  But Millie also acknowledges that not needing to come out is a privilege that not everyone in the LGBQTIA+ community can get away with.  In this episode Millie shares with Sean about her 'straight passing privilege' which means she has to come out less than others, how she found women to date without coming out, her IVF and pregnancy journey with her wife Jessie and the different ways she is forced to come out in everyday life.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.