You’re married or partnered, maybe have children, a career and your identity is heterosexual, but then you’re single again and unexpectedly you fall in love with a woman. How does that work? Tonight’s club is the Later-Life lesbian club. Beth interviews three bold, funny and wise women who speak together anonymously to share their stories of coming out later in life and how it has affected their lives.  Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14. Topics include:  >  marriage equality >  coming out >lesbian clubs >  lesbian culture >  The pink sofa  >  online dating  >U-hauling >   family reactions to coming out as gay later in life >   discrimination  >generational change >children of gay parents coming out as straight or otherwise >Mardi Gras >identity within gay community/pansexual  >lesbian films and television  > pronouns/categories   >  step family dynamics/blended families >   “gold star” lesbians >   bi-phobia  >  patriarchy impact on marriage/domestics comparative to same-sex  >  book - the tragedy of heterosexuality  >  pressures of representing a community  >longevity as a dubious marker of success  >sexual attraction  >sharing breastfeeding >complexity of breadwinner/mother dynamics >who gets pregnant, and bonding with both mothers >post natal depression  >IVF >Love  >Finding community/your tribe and allies  >religion  >“Toaster oven” concept >Sexual similarities/differences  >Straights learning from lesbians as to appreciating the female form and straight women learning to ask/express their sexual desires with their partners >male/female gaze  Curveball Media is an independent company working in collaboration with Unison Sound, Sydney, Australia. We give voice to everyday people who have extraordinary stories, which are considered taboo. The best way to support Curveball Media is to click 'Subscribe' on Apple Podcasts,' Follow' on your Spotify app, or subscribe for updates at curveballmedia.com.au, where you can also leave feedback, share your own story and suggest topics; we'd love to hear from you. Please leave a review in the app where you listen to the podcast, as it helps bring new listeners and share with your friends.  Follow our social media to keep up to date:  instagram.com/curveball_media/ facebook.com/curveballpodcast This episode is hosted and co-produced by Beth Armstrong, produced by Luke Mynott at Unison Sound, edited by Tom Herdman, sound engineered by Cihan Siral and music by Biddy Connor.