Narcissus will steal a little light out of your holiday party. So I understand that there are natural go to who will be to grab the attention either by playing victim, as in the covert narcissist or grabbing the attention and being the center. When you are dealing with narcissists at a holiday event. It is important not to allow them to put up your light, be strategic, sit at a place at the dinner table, or be at a place at the party that is putting distance between you and the narcissist. If they are being offensive, then you can either choose to go neutral and change the topic and talk about the delicious green bean casserole. Or you can get up and take a little bathroom break and break up the attempt at making you feel bad. The best thing to do is to be psychologically as healthy as humanly possible. And to do that, consider doing the mind map system and identifying core negative core beliefs that get blue printed by narcissistic parents such as You are not enough and you are not good enough by attending to the wounds and dismantling their effects on the psyche. You will prevent yourself from being a walking reactor to narcissistic slights. Slights. And what would you say? Narcissistic attempts to demean, devalue and destroy you?