Chances are you've come from a narcissistic, abusive family. If your parents were apathetic and lacked empathy, you will probably end up choosing people who lack empathy as well. Or perhaps it is. Perhaps you will identify with your parents and close your heart down as well. Exiting a narcissistic, abusive relationship takes a lot of courage and it also challenges your a year. It challenges your negative core beliefs like am I good enough and my worthy? Am I lovable? Sometimes when you exit the relationship, you remember the good times and you want to recapture them and go back into the cycle of abuse and emotional violence, so to speak, on this cycle doesn't end well because you never really recapture what you wanted in the first place because they were capable of giving it to you to begin with. The best thing to do is to. What's the word to. To remove yourself from triggers. Remove yourself from these kinds of relationships. Discover why you entered them in the first place, and heal the remnants of the childhood wounds within yourself so you don't repeat the patterns.