Are your thoughts getting in the way of you living a safe, calm, and happy life with your dog?
Without realizing it, your thoughts around safe, calm, and happy, could be the very thing that stifles your progress! Whenever you try to make real change happen in your life (even if it’s positive change), your primitive brain often steps in and makes you question everything.
So, what can you do about it? And, how can you override your primitive brain so that it stops getting in the way of your...
What do different dog greetings really mean?
Have you ever wondered why your dog greets you the way they do? Why do they get so excited when you come home? Why do they jump up, spin around in circles, or clobber you with their front paw?
As dog moms, most of us fully embrace whatever way our dogs choose to greet us. Of course, we might find it cute and adorable when our dogs jump up to greet us. However, guests might not appreciate your dog hurling themselves at them when they walk through...
Are you fed up with your dog biting you, other family members, or guests?
Setting boundaries for our dogs is so important, especially when it comes to biting. Biting is a difficult and highly misunderstood topic. A lot of the misunderstanding comes from the idea of setting boundaries because boundaries mean strict restrictions, right? Well, not exactly.
When setting boundaries for your dog, you actually help to build trust. You see, the one thing that our dogs need to trust us is the same...
Living in partnership with our dogs comes with lots of highs and lows. We create memories together that we cherish, and we continue to grow closer as brilliant partners. However, it's not all rainbows and sunshine. Sometimes, our dogs like to express themselves in ways that some people would deem "naughty."
This type of behavior ranges from barking at perceived dangers that we know are safe, trying to chase moving cars, or barking hysterically at airplanes and birds in the sky.
Where does your empowerment come from?
Empowerment does not come from placing yourself above others but from your strength, vulnerability, and empathetic nature. Whenever a new year or season in life begins, many people reflect on their life’s purpose. They want to discover why they’re here on this planet and find meaning in what they’re doing with their lives.
As dog moms, we might be thinking about how we live with our dogs. We learn alongside them, and we thrive together in partnership....
Is your dog so out of control that you’re afraid to walk them on a leash?
There’s nothing more stressful than walking an unruly and reactive dog who could pull, lunge, or bark hysterically at any minute. If you’re struggling with this problem with your dog, Kathy wants to help you change your story so that you and your dog can come together in a loving partnership.
So, for this episode of Enlightened By Dogs, Kathy has taken a few lessons from a recent coaching session she had with a lovely...
Is your dog reactive on the leash? Maybe your dog hates being on the leash and won’t even let you put it on. Or, perhaps your dog pulls on the leash and lunges towards other dogs, moving objects, or other people. Whatever the case, your dog is not a fan of the leash and will do just about anything to avoid it!
If any of this sounds familiar, this is the episode for you! Kathy has met hundreds (if not thousands) of dog moms through the years who have dealt with this frustrating issue. The...
If you’re struggling with your dog, you’re not alone. We all have good days and bad days with our dogs. Sometimes, our dogs wear invisible halos and act like angels for the entire day. Other times, our dogs turn into rebels who would rather do their own thing than listen to our commands.
Experiencing life with a dog comes with its ups and downs. There is a lot of joy, fun, and adventure that comes with sharing your life with a dog. On the other hand, there can be struggles and challenges...
Do you dream of creating a brilliant partnership with your dog? The type of partnership where the two of you can dance through life together as real partners?
Well, you can but it takes time, patience, and a lot of practice. In this inspiring episode of Enlightened By Dogs, Kathy shares how you and your dog can become winning partners.
To be a brilliant partner for your dog, you must put mental conditioning, optimistic thinking, responsibility for your actions, flexibility, intuition, and...
2020 hasn’t been the easiest year for any of us. It’s been tough and it’s about time we welcomed some joy and happiness into our lives, don’t you think?
You’ve probably heard the saying that happiness is a choice, and that is true to some extent. Of course, being happy is easier said than done, especially if you’re going through a difficult time.
As we approach the new year, it’s a good time to think about what we can do to make sure 2021 is a better year filled with happiness and joy. So,...
Do you practice gratitude? It’s well-known that having an active gratitude practice can make you happier and healthier, but when you’re always so busy, when can you find the time to do it?
There’s no better time to appreciate the smaller things in life than on your daily dog walk. Whether your dog is up to something silly or you just feel that connection between yourself and them, taking a moment to notice your wonderful partnership is a great way to start a gratitude practice.
Did you know that both you and your dog are wired for connection? It’s almost as though your relationship with your dog was written in the stars!
However, you might not realize that there are things you could be doing that consciously or unconsciously disconnect you from your dog. The things that weaken your connection with your dog can lead to your dog becoming over-aroused, anxious, or even reactive.
So, how can you become more aware of your actions and behavior to avoid weakening your...
What should you do if your family isn't on board with your goal of creating a partnership lifestyle with your dog?
Many people assume that if the whole family isn't on board, it’s impossible to create a partnership lifestyle. While it can make it slightly more challenging for some, not everyone in the family has to follow "the rules" for you to develop a loving connection with your dog. Of course, it would help if everyone in the family followed your lead, but don't worry if that's not...
What should you do when your dog refuses to listen?
You tell them to come to you, they run in the opposite direction. You ask them to stop barking, and they bark louder. You ask them to get off the couch, and they snuggle into it some more. You get the idea.
Sometimes, it feels like our dogs are rebellious on purpose. They flat out refuse to listen, and you’re left wondering if they go out of their way to make your life harder. When your dog refuses to listen to you, what should you do...
When faced with difficult times, it can be hard to pull yourself out of it. Thankfully, there are things you can do to get through the hard days and emerge out on the other side, ready to live your best life with your dog.
Even without words, it can often seem like your dog understands you better than most people. They’re with you for all of life’s ups and downs, always ready to lend a helping paw and provide support when you need it most.
Sometimes, it can feel like you’re drowning in hard...
Are you and your dog resilient? Building resilience is so important to create a strong partnership with your dog. Yet, not many people talk about the power of resilience within the dog community. It’s time to change that!
Being resilient gives you the ability to adapt quickly and bounce back stronger when things don’t go as planned. However, it’s important that both you and your dog are resilient, which is something that you can work on together. But, what does it mean be resilient? And, how...
Don’t you hate it when other people get involved with you and your dog’s way of life? Or worse, when disrespectful dog people don’t follow the rules and cause a dramatic event to happen with your dog?
It’s so frustrating when things happen that are out of your control. But, the one thing that you can control when the unexpected happens are your thoughts.
Your thoughts can bring you (and your dog) down if you aren’t careful, which is why I want to shine a light on this topic to help you...
Do you want to start banking trust with your dog? The more trust your dog has in you, the better prepared you will both be when confronted with an unexpected or traumatic event.
If your dog has experienced a traumatic event or has PTSD from such an event, supporting and making your dog feel safe is so important. As dog moms (and human beings), we hate to see a dog in any pain or emotional distress. If we could protect all of the dogs in the world from such things, we would. Unfortunately, we...
Are you an advocate for your puppy or young dog?
When dogs are young, they are very impressionable. An unfortunate event or situation has the potential to impact the rest of their lives. Exposure to an aggressive dog can make a young puppy nervous around other dogs as they get older. A bad experience with a vehicle can make a dog fearful around traffic. The list goes on and on!
As dog moms, it is up to us to protect our puppies and young dogs. As their advocate, we need to make sure that we...
Bettina's life was turned upside down when they decided to adopt Murphy, a deaf dog with OCD, after seeing his handsome face on a rescue website. It quickly became apparent that Murphy had a LOT more going on than a hearing impairment...
In this episode:
How Bettina adopted Murphy and gave him a loving home How Murphy’s behavior suddenly changed after a swim in the lake Murphy’s OCD diagnosis and his experience with a behavioral specialist How Murphy’s behavior impacted Bear and Mary Why...
Stella's wild child Henna was a special puppy who endured serious illness, affecting her brain and their relationship. Henna's lunging and barking at everything embarrassed Stella, who became stressed about the effect this out of control dog was having on the family.
Resonating with the BPA focus on heart, connection and understanding, Stella joined the BPA and soon began to really 'hear' Henna. She soon realized that it was fear and lack of trust that was the driver for the unruly...
Ros adapted to life with her two beautiful but reactive Vizsla girls by avoiding encounters with other dogs and becoming hyper-vigilant. But this was not a sustainable way to live and Ros soon found herself filled with anxiety about the possibility that anything would suddenly appear.
People, dogs, cyclists, joggers, wildlife all caused panic, and the treat training around triggers did little to calm Ros or her dogs.
Taking a leap of faith in joining BPA, Ros went to work learning how to be...
Can you imagine being a first-time dog mom with a reactive dog that just won’t listen to you?
This is the situation that first-time dog mom, Paulina, found herself in after adopting a reactive dog named Badi. Paulina struggled to understand Badi and couldn’t figure out why he always barked at other dogs and things outside the window. This caused Paulina to judge herself and to compare her dog with others, creating more frustration for both of them.
Now? Life has completely changed for them...
Does your dog compulsively chase little animals (and leaves blowing in the wind)? Perhaps your dog is frightened of traffic and is a nightmare to walk down the street?
Well, what if you heard a story about a dog mom (and member of my Brilliant Partners Academy) whose dog had both issues? That’s right, this stressed dog mom was struggling with a rescue dog named Charlie who became very reactive around trucks, cars, bikes and pretty much anything with wheels. He also had an insane compulsion...
In its purest form, unconditional love is not contingent upon your dog’s behavior. Yes, you might get frustrated or even angry when your dog misbehaves, but you don’t stop loving them because of it.
There’s a reason why Kathy refers to members of the Brilliant Partners Academy as ‘dog moms.’ It’s because you are, in a sense, your dog’s mom. When you love a dog, you love them like a mother. Their behavior does not influence that love. You love them no matter what they do. We love our dogs...