It feels like flirting just comes naturally to some people, but is it possible to learn to be a better flirt? Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, says yes! He’s taking us through his best flirting tips this week, all the way from approaching a stranger at a party to keeping the flirt going in a long-term relationship. You’ll come out of the episode with concrete tips designed to get you out there and flirting! In Updates, Erica is back in LA and reflecting on how life has blossomed in her...

We’ve heard more and more in the dating space about Facebook groups like Are We Dating The Same Guy lately - so we sent a survey out to our listeners asking your thoughts. On this week’s episode, we discuss all sides of these groups, including their original intent, what they’ve become, and how they seem to be impacting our view of dating. In Updates, Erica recounts how dating burnout seems similar across the world and prepares to bring her apps back stateside. Meanwhile, Ali reflects on...

Jewish Matchmaking remains one of Erica and Ali’s favorite dating shows, and this week we welcome its host: Aleeza Ben-Shalom! We get into her viral dating philosophies including no touching for five dates and “date them until you hate them,” plus her thoughts on what qualities make a good match. In Updates, Ali debriefs a Halloween night that was very out of her comfort zone while Erica discovers that dating app tropes span multiple continents. Where to find Aleeza: On Instagram...

Did you binge Nobody Wants This on Netflix as quickly as we did? Ali & Erica are diving into the show that took over our social media feeds (and for good reason) and how it relates to real-life dating. For Ali, the early days of the characters’ relationship hits very close to home and both gals contemplate how they’d react to some of the scenarios if they happened IRL. In Updates, Erica spends time with her Italian family & learns more about dating/relationships in their culture. Ali...

Have you ever dreamed of travelling abroad and meeting the love of your life? Kacie Rose (@kacierose_ on IG) just did that and she’s here to tell us all about dating long distance and cross-culturally. We discuss her best tips for long distance, what worked in managing conflicts between her and her now-fiancé, and how dating an Italian man is different. Note: Ali’s mic wasn’t hooked up properly for Kacie’s interview, we apologize for the less-than-stellar audio. In Updates, Erica & Ali...

Have a question? Erica & Ali are here to answer it! This week, we answer three listener questions. First, a woman has been setting her friend up on dates and wonders if she should share “exit interview” feedback with her. Second, when should you share potential dealbreaker like pet allergies with a date? Lastly, a listener considers canceling a date when she notices something has changed on his profile. But first, the gals are together in Portugal with their moms! Erica reveals a side...

Do you experience anxiety in dating and relationships? Worrying that you’ll say the wrong thing, be in the wrong relationship, or ruin things with the right one? Sarah Yudkin, relationship anxiety coach and host of You Love and You Learn podcast, has some soothing words for you (and us!). Sarah shares how her own experience with her now fiance shaped her relationship anxiety work and we discuss issues such as: knowing if it’s your gut or anxiety, how to bring up anxiety with your partner, and...

Erica & Ali are back with another hilarious (at least to us) Sex And The City episode, where we dissect its theories while acting out scenes from the show. This week, we’re covering Taxi Cab Theory, how long it takes to get over a break up, and faking orgasms (with a new character introduced!). In Updates, Erica attends a friend’s wedding…or is it one of those “pitch your friend” events?? Ali awaits Skyline’s surprise and the gals discuss Hinge’s latest update that’s designed to keep...

We always hear, “it will happen when you least expect it,” but letting go of societal timelines and expectations isn’t as easy as a catchy phrase. Enter Beth Gulotta, therapist and host of Quiet The Clock podcast. We chat with Beth about quieting the noise surrounding what you “should” be doing (hint: stop using that word!) and getting more in touch with your inner voice. She gives incredible advice on dealing with social pressure, the urge to compare yourself to others, feeling present in...

This week, Ali & Erica are answering short-form listener questions, rapid fire style. We take turns asking each other things like: is it ever okay to be sexual in your dating app profile? Can you be friends with a past situationship? Is it better to be good on paper or have good chemistry? And are people ever actually bad texters, or do they just not like you that much? Plus many more! In Updates, Erica explores a new app designed to meet people in person while Ali winds down at work and...

It’s our first time doing Ask A 40-Something Man, featuring Erica’s good friend and standup comedian Charles McBee. We asked our listeners: “What’s something you’ve always wanted to ask a man?” and y’all did not disappoint! Tune in for Charles’s thoughts things like: moving on after a breakup, how much men share with their friends, and whether you can tell your partner you don’t like their gifts. In Updates, Erica’s Don’t Tell Comedy set is live!! Thanks to all of you for the support. Ali...

Ali & Erica switch it up this week with a new episode format: discussing scenes from Sex And The City and how they apply to life today (complete with some voice acting!). We discuss lending money to friends, whether friends can be your true soulmates, & what to do if you hate going down. In Updates, Erica gets her Don’t Tell set back and works on selecting social clips. Meanwhile, Ali settles further into life with Skyline and confronts some things coming up from past...

Erica & Ali could not HELP but let this interview with ShrinkChicks (aka Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT & Emmalee Bierly, LMFT) run a bit long because, y’all, it is incredible. The foursome starts off discussing how difficult it can be to find a therapist and offer some advice for navigating that journey. Then, we move into our most popular listener submission: boundaries and conflict. What is a boundary, anyway? How best to set one to invite closeness (because it turns out that’s what...

Erica & Ali are back answering your questions in a Hot Topics episode this week! We counsel a listener who is nervous about having sex for the first time. Then, a listener is struggling with a guy who’s chronically late and recently stood her up. Third, Erica gives advice on navigating a herpes disclosure in your relationship. And finally, a listener isn’t feeling cared for by the guy she’s dating. With Ali still traveling and Erica focused on work (check out last week’s episode for more...

We’re back with another debate team episode, where Ali & Erica debate topics submitted by our listeners! We’ve got four topics up for debate this week. Let us know where you stand! Marathon dates early in the game - yay or nay? Is it okay to be late for a date? Can you date someone you work with? And finally, should you go ring shopping with your partner before getting engaged? In Updates, Erica navigates next steps in her comedy career and opens up about her current focus. Meanwhile,...

Straight from your guest suggestions, we have Maddie Dragsbaek, host of the Emotionally Online podcast, in an amazing episode this week! Maddie has been opening up about her life online since before podcasts were a thing and this week is no exception. Our conversation focuses first on her bisexuality - what exploring that both privately and publicly has looked like, her advice for anyone thinking they might be bi, and her experience taking dating off the apps and into the real world. We then...

Erica & Ali have so many updates to share this week that we did an episode full of them (plus a lot of girl talk in between)! Erica is fresh off her third date with Tony Soprano and is on the fence about a fourth (until she accidentally pushes herself off). The gals get into a great discussion about the frustration of someone being “good on paper” and how to know when to cut something off. Meanwhile, Ali celebrates two milestones with Skyline - 3 months of dating that happens to coincide...

Psychotherapist Charisse Cooke is back on the pod this week and Erica & Ali could have talked to her for hours! Our conversation focuses on attachment theory, answering listener questions such as how to self soothe an anxious attachment, best strategies for navigating an anxious/avoidant dynamic, and why avoidant attachment gets such a bad rap. In Updates, Ali reflects on project management in a relationship while Erica plans her third date with Tony Soprano. Where to find Charisse: On...

We hear about cheating a lot, but it’s rarely from the perspective of the person who does the cheating. This week, standup comedian Chloe Radcliffe opens up about her pattern of cheating (which she wrote a solo show about!). We dive into her thoughts on the origins of cheating, what she’s learned from her pattern and is applying in her new relationship, and so much more culminating in a round of rapid-fire Debate Team! In Updates, Erica has an adorable second date with Tony where they get...

We had so much fun talking about our past beliefs the other week that we’re bringing it back for a series including your submissions! We discuss submissions such as “your person will complete you,” “trying hard isn’t cool,” and “you should share many common hobbies with your partner.” Let us know if you like this series and submit more of your past beliefs for future episodes! But first, Erica has an exciting first date with (new nickname alert) Tony Soprano and Ali has a heck of weekend...

Ali & Erica are joined this week by Kelly, a listener who wrote in to share her story about dating with depression & anxiety. Kelly shares her journey towards getting diagnosed, how depression impacted her dating, & what growing in her first serious relationship has been like. It’s a powerful, relatable story that we can’t wait to share. But first, Erica has a long-awaited update on Comic Con while Ali reflects on more Skyline learnings. Timestamps: Kelly joins us at around...

We asked for your submissions about dating philosophies or “rules” you used to believe, but don’t anymore, and WOW did you deliver! So much so that we’ll be continuing this topic in future episodes. We’re starting this week with things that Ali & Erica used to believe, but don’t anymore, such as: when you know you know, men should ask women out for the second date, don’t save phone numbers until you’re official, and more. In Updates, Erica is back from her travels and has learned...

We’re debuting a new segment on the pod this week…Debate Team! Ali & Erica will each be assigned a side of a debate and debate each other. This week, we’re starting with “should you live together before getting engaged?” and “can you be friends with an ex?” It gets especially fun when we have to argue for the side we don’t actually agree with! But first, it’s a BIG week of updates on the pod. Ali recaps her long-awaited reunion with Skyline - did she follow through on her hard commit to...

Erica & Ali welcome feminist dating coach and debut author Lily Womble to the pod this week! We chat about bringing more joy into your dating life, how to narrow down your search to what Lily calls essences-based preferences, and how to reframe your mindset when you feel like you’re “too much.” Order Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, out June 11th! In Updates, we have a special Patreon teaser that Ali recorded with Talia Koren (@ Dating.intentionally) while Erica was on vacation....