“I wish Lulu had asked for clarification on a couple of things:
1. The Christian culture of teaching abstinence to adolescents with raging hormones needs to change. Her story - and many others like hers - would be very different if she had been on birth control or her partner had used a condom. You don’t “find yourself pregnant” to use Lulu’s words. In her particular situation (not all) the two people creating that life both make choices that lead to pregnancy. She was a victim of the abstinence culture.
She said, “Making the choice to be on birth control meant that I was considering sin.” I wonder what she thinks about that now. Perhaps the lesson she would give her younger self would be, “Maybe that narrative I was telling myself at that time was wrong. I was human with normal sexual desires and normal - weak - teenage levels of will power.”
Rates of unplanned pregnancies are lower in areas of the country where birth control is more readily available.
2. The woman wasn’t ready to be a parent but there are so many couples that are ready to be parents but can’t because of infertility. Perhaps she considered it but we didn’t once hear the option of adoption mentioned. If she had pursued that option, then she would likely not have married a man she didn’t love, perhaps she would have gone to Yale a year later and her life might have taken a different path.
I commend her courage in telling her story. It seems she is in a good place now. I hope her children are as well.”
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United States of America ·
06/12/22