Get Sex-Smart is back after a holiday break, and in this first episode of the new year Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin say goodbye to 2017 with a list of their favorite sex-related scientific discoveries and events that took place last year. They also share their favorite Get Sex-Smart episodes of 2017 and offer tips on making successful sexual resolutions for the New Year.  

Virginity is a controversial topic in our society, and many people who never had partner sex feel anxious about losing their virginity. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin talk about what is problematic about virginity; the feelings of shame and anxiety many virgins experience; and how virgins can start having enjoyable and fun partner sex. 

Pegging is a sexual activity that can be both extremely pleasurable and very intimate. Many men and women are curious about pegging but also feel unsure and anxious about trying it. In today's episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin talk about what pegging is, how to make it pleasurable, how to overcome anxiety and concerns around pegging, how to discuss pegging with your partner, and more. 

Many couples face challenges around sexual compatibility, including differences in libido, eroticism, and sexual fantasies and preferences. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss the problem of erotic incompatibility, when one partner's sexual fantasies, fetish or turn ons are different from those of the other partner. We discuss how to manage complicated emotions around erotic incompatibility, ways of communicating and negotiating, and possible solutions. 

Studies show that about 8% to 10% of adult population describe themselves as virgins. Partners of virgins often feel the pressure to make first-time sex as good as possible. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin talk about the concept of virginity; what difficulties and anxieties can come with being an adult virgin; how partners of virgins can overcome their own concerns and anxieties about sexual performance; and how to make sure both partners have amazing and pleasurable...

In this episode, Dr. Valeria interviews guest Katy Zvolerin, PR Director for Adam & Eve, a popular online seller of adult products. We discuss why sex toys for men are becoming more popular; the variety of products available - from the simplest and most expensive to more advanced; prostate stimulation, pegging, and more; and finally, our advice on how to use sex toys both solo and with a partner.

Many men who struggle with dating and relationships think that being a "Nice Guy" is the key to getting the girl. Unfortunately, this strategy often ends up delivering disappointing results. On today's episode, guest Harris O'Malley, aka Dr. Nerdlove, chats with Dr. Valeria about the side effects of the "Nice Guy" stereotype, and how having a "Nice Guy" mindset can seriously sabotage a man's chances at a happy and fulfilling sex life.

In the recent weeks, the #MeToo movement swept over social media in the wake of the Weinstein sexual harassment scandal. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss why the movement is so important; share their own perspective on #MeToo; and make the argument that the movement may have a great potential to heal and improve the intimate relationships between men and women. 

Today, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin are discussing the seven factors that contribute to men's sexual attractiveness, based on the sociologist Catherine Hakim's theory of erotic capital. We discuss physical beauty; liveliness; charm; physical presentation; social skills; sex appeal; and sexual competence. We also talk about how men can increase these factors to become more sexually attractive. 

According to a recent study in the Journal of Sex Research, many men seem to treat their female parters' orgasms as a confidence booster and a way to feel more masculine and successful. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and guest Sarah Martin discuss the reasons why men feel this way; how this treatment of female orgasms impacts women; and the negative consequences for sexual relationships.

This may come as a surprise to many, but male erotica and pornography are incredibly popular among women. In fact, gay male pornography has been consistently at the top of the most searched pornography topics for women. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss what's behind this high level of interest; what it tells us about women's sexuality; and some of the good resources for those of you who are interested in exploring this genre. 

We often take it for granted that men always want sex and are always eager and ready for it. But is it true? Dr. Valeria and guest, sex and relationship wellness coach Jeanson Benoit, look at the top five surprising facts about men's sexual desire (according to a recent study that looked at heterosexual men in long-term relationships). These findings challenge our understanding of men's sexuality and reveal that male sexual desire isn't as simple as we thought. 

We're looking at a recent study published by Pornhub that complied 10 years of porn searches. Each year, different sexual fantasies seemed to be especially popular. Dr. Valeria and guest, sex coach Sarah Martin review the most popular searches on Pornhub and discuss what they say about our sexuality in this raunchy and hilarious episode. 

Today, Dr. Valeria is answering a listener question. The listener enjoys her intimate relationship, but still has a hard time disengaging from everyday life and its many responsibilities, and feeling more sexy, confident, and open to intimacy. Dr. Valeria shares her tips and advice. 

For many women, being able to have an orgasm with a partner is a big challenge. Actually, most women have experienced a lack of orgasm during partner sex (especially intercourse), and this issue affects heterosexual women the most. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin look at some of the reasons why women have trouble having orgasms with partner sex, and what can be done to help women become more orgasmic with their partners.

In this new dating-focused episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin talk about a common source of anxiety for a lot of people: the fear of coming across as "creepy". We talk about what defines creepy behavior; the difference between being creepy and socially awkward; and how not to come across as creepy in dating situations. 

This is a common situation: you make a sex or intimacy-related request of your partner; they seem to agree to it, but never actually follow through. You find yourself feeling frustrated, dismissed, and dissatisfied. In this episode, Dr. Valeria looks at some reasons why your sexual requests are going unfulfilled, and what you can do to improve the situation.

When we talk about intimacy, we often talk about physical attractiveness and beauty as important factors for good sex. But just how important are our looks when it comes to creating fulfilling sex lives? Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin weigh in.

Many of us struggle with feelings of distance and disconnect in our sexual relationships. Keeping the spark of passion and intimacy alive gets especially harder in long-term relationships. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Jeanson Benoit discuss five tips for creating a stronger sexual connection with your partner that will help you revitalize and strengthen your intimate relationship.

Faking orgasms is a well known phenomenon that has become part of popular culture over the years. But is it a good idea to fake? In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin reveal who fakes orgasms (surprise: it's not just women); why we fake; what to do if you are the one faking; and what to do if you discover that your partner has been faking.  EPISODE NOTES: 2017 Faking Orgasms Study: https://www.entitymag.com/faking-orgasms-study/

Today, Dr. Valeria and her guest, sex coach Jeanson Benoit discuss the five things women secretly wish men did differently in sex. We talk about performance pressure; pleasure; sexual skills; pornography; what men absolutely need to focus on; ways in which men themselves - and the rest of us - need to give men a break; tips and strategies for better sex; and much more.  EPISODE NOTES: The Guide for Getting It On - book available on Amazon Dr. Valeria's Digital Sex Ed DVD...

A lot of dating advice being given these days also deals with sex and intimacy. And while some of it is accurate and well-intentioned, a lot of it is based on myths, false assumptions, and general sex-negativity. In today's episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin take a look at five types of dating advice that not only won't help you have good sex now but can also have very negative consequences for your sexual relationship long-term. 

We often focus on the skills of the partner who is giving oral sex. But how we receive oral sex has a huge impact on our enjoyment of the act. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss five common mistakes that women make when receiving oral sex, which prevent them from experience the full range of pleasure and fulfillment. 

Dr. Valeria chats with relationship coach Valerie Greene about how balancing our male and female energies can help us create better relationships; how to become more magnetic to the masculine; and how to communicate your feelings in an authentic way.  EPISODE NOTES: Valerie Greene's free e-guide to Man-ifesting lasting love: http://www.coachvaleriegreene.com/eguide/

Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin are back with another anal sex episode. Today, we're sharing 5 advanced tips and techniques for taking anal sex to the next level. (Make sure to check out Episode 47, our first anal sex episode, which is a must-listen for anyone interested in exploring anal pleasure!) Sarah's website: www.goodsexlifestyle.com Dr. Valeria's website: www.drvaleriachuba.com Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here:...