In the words of today's guest, Noel Koons, "We all dent our children."  Though it may seem like so many other families have everything perfectly together, Noel assures us that isn't true – and with more than 13 years of clinical mental health experience counseling families and individuals, he should know.   In today's episode, Noel explains why these dents are inevitable: It's literally impossible for parents to meet all of their child's emotional needs, many of which rely on social relationships outside the immediate family. And the dents left by our own parents can often frame the way we understand and react to our children.   During this conversation, Noel gives us a crash course in the six universal emotional needs, why "family of origin" work is so important for us to pay attention to, why parents must present a united front to kids using substances, and why some kids feel like they're just "too much" to expect the fulfillment they need. Make sure to check out the show notes for links to a more thorough discussion of the six emotional needs, along with to-do items that can help us fulfill them for ourselves and our families. ____________________________________ The podcast is now part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community: www.hopestreamcommunity.org Learn about The Stream, our private online community for moms, at www.hopestreamcommunity.org/the-stream/ Find us on Instagram: @hopestreamcommunity Download my free e-book, HINDSIGHT: Three Things I Wish I Knew When My Son Was Misusing Drugs: www.brendazane.com/hindsight Join my email list: www.brendazane.com/email