In this two-part series we take a deep dive into one of the most essential—and sometimes challenging—aspects of relationships: TRUST!   Recently many our the Let's Talk Polyamory private Facebook group and in our individual coaching and therapy practices have raised TRUST as an issue they are currently facing in their relationships.  For some it is because of a specific situation that occurred, like a betrayal, while for others, the issue of trust goes a bit deeper and stems from past...

Sex... we love it, we want it, and, for many, it is part of our "why" behind being consensually non-monogamous in the first place.   Having said that, if we've been intimate, or in a relationship, with someone for a longer period of time, things can sometimes feel a little stale.  At the same time, the ⚡️New Relationship Energy (NRE) we may be experiencing with others we are in relationships with might feel exciting and super 🔥hot! In this episode we talk about the 69 Ways to Amplify Your...

Welcome to Season 2 of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast! We are kicking things off with a hotly debated topic: Can Mono-Poly Relationships Really Work?  What happens when one partner is monogamous while the other embraces polyamory? Are these relationships destined for failure, or can they actually thrive? Mono-Poly relationships come with unique challenges—navigating asymmetrical freedoms (where one partner has multiple emotional and/or sexual relationships and the other doesn’t),...

Thank you for an amazing first season of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast!  We will be back with Season 2 and brand new episodes starting in late September 2024.  In Season 2 we are inviting some very special guests to join us to take a deeper dive into how you can successfully navigate consensual non-monogamy making it secure, adventurous and even more sexy! In the meantime you can catch up on this season’s episodes where we talked about: How open relationships work Jealousy How to...

It's said that in successful relationships, there's always a KITE and a STRING. Which are you? You may have heard of this metaphor which is often used to describe dynamics in monogamous couples, however in this episode: Kites & Strings: Relationship Roles and Dynamics in Non-Monogamy, we take a polyamory spin on it and talk about how it may apply to the world of non-monogamous relationships as well! We explore what it means to be a kite or a string, how these roles may shift when we...

While we all know that open and honest communication is the key to relationships success, a recent University of California study found that there’s plenty of people would rather not know certain details about what their partner is up to! This is one of the big questions that people often struggle with, and are often at odds with, in non-monogamous relationships.  Some prefer the DADT - don’t ask, don’t tell - model where everything is unsaid. It’s a … I’d rather not know because what I...

Personal boundaries… they’re the imaginary lines we can draw around ourselves to maintain balance and protect our bodies, minds, emotions, and time for ourselves and from the behaviour or demands of others.  Our boundaries are most effective when we are first clear about them ourselves and then when we communicate them to others. If you find it hard to share your boundaries, you are not alone.  Even  when someone crosses our boundaries (intentionally or unintentionally), common worries are...

You’ve probably seen the various “rules” out there that attempt to cleverly use numbers to describe what you should or shouldn’t do in a relationship or when dating. Having rules and guidelines to follow to lead you to a desired outcome can be helpful and even comforting. Like the 2-2-2 one that suggests that couples should go on a date once every two weeks, spend a weekend away every two months and take a week-long vacation every two years. Others are just plain awful. There's the...

Have you heard the term ACCIDENTAL POLYAMORY? This is what some call those unexpected journeys that lead individuals and couples into exploring polyamory dynamics either as a willing participant or with some fear or resistance. In this episode, Accidental Polyamory: Now What? we cover 3 different unexpected scenarios one can find themselves in. Imagine you're in a monogamous relationship, and suddenly, one partner expresses a desire to explore consensual non-monogamy or open the...

Thinking about opening your relationship or diving into polyamory? It sounds thrilling and 🔥hot, right? Imagine the excitement of meeting new people and having the freedom to explore both emotional and sexual connections with them. For us, it's been an incredible and fulfilling journey, surpassing our wildest dreams. But, there are some unexpected risks and challenges that can threaten the security of any relationship. In this episode, we share our personal experiences and cover the...

At some point in your journey towards non-monogamy someone you know has likely said to you "I could never do that. I'm too jealous!" Maybe you've even wondered this about yourself or have been afraid that you aren't cut out for non-monogamy given some of the strong feelings you've felt. While jealousy is one of the main things that people are challenged with when opening a relationship or experiencing polyamory for the first time, and it can be intense and feel all consuming, there are ways...

New Relationship Energy, or NRE, sometimes gets a bad rap in polyamory as while one person may be experiencing the highs of being with someone new, others that they are in relationships may feel left behind, or jealous or find it threatening to the security of that connection... hence the "awful" But it’s not all about putting out forest fires.  There’s nothing wrong with new relationship energy in itself, and in fact it can be an "awesome" experience for all involved.  One of the amazing...

In this episode of the Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast we are open up our polyamory dictionary and cover a ton of common definitions and terms you may come across as you navigate consensual non-monogamy: Metamour Kitchen, Parallel and Garden Party Polyamory Solo Polyamory Polycules V (Vee) Relationships and being a Hinge Primary, Satellite and Comet Partners Unicorns, Bulls and Rhinos Unicorn Hunting Couple’s Privilege Threesomes, Triads and Throuples Relationship Anarchy ...

Are there things that you feel you 😩 “suck” at in your open or polyamorous relationships?  Perhaps it seems that others are having an easy time and doing it “right” and that you’re the only ones with an all-you-can-ride ticket on struggle bus! Here’s the TRUTH though... Nobody does it perfectly.  Everyone sucks at non-monogamy at some point.  This can happen at the beginning or at any stop along the way in your journey. We know from our own experiences and from the couples and individuals...

In this episode we pick up where we left off in part 1 and take a deeper dive into WHY making a transition to a different relating style of consensual / ethical non-monogamy can be such an issue for couples. These new and unexpected feelings and struggles often come as a surprise as prior to making the change they might have felt secure in what they were doing. If you missed part 1, we shared the 5 essential steps to feel good in making a change in your relationship: ✅ Understanding what...

Change is exhilarating and exciting, but as you may have experienced, it can also be challenging, especially in relationships! Many of our listeners have shared with us that they are in the midst of making a transition in their relationships, opening up to the idea of polyamory and dating people individually.  These transitions often involve difficult discussions and feelings of insecurity and instability that weren't there before. Firstly, this is NORMAL! As new people enter the picture...

Have you ever found yourself choosing between staying together or splitting up for good?  If you're considering changes in your relationship, tune in as we delve into the intriguing question: Is It Time To De-Escalate My Relationship? Because there's other options out there, and we're diving deep into them in this special podcast episode. We kick things off with a heartfelt, unscripted conversation about our own journey in reshaping our polyamorous relationship. Trust us, it's been quite...

It's a question we often get asked... Can opening my relationship (or monogamous LTR) save my marriage? Conventional wisdom, and perhaps even our own advice in the past, would warn against opening up a relationship as a fix or solution. BUT... the more accurate answer is YES, it could help in some cases. In this episode we explore the possibility of opening your relationship and the many benefits you can gain such as deeper connection, trust, variety, sexual and emotional stimulation and...

🦄Unicorns… mythical creatures or real?  In this episode we talk about UNICORNS in the context of consensual non-monogamy and if if  UNICORN HUNTING can be done in a way that defies this stereotype so that it’s ethical, consensual and feels good for all parties involved! The term unicorn-hunting typically describes the practice of an established couple searching for a third person to engage in either threesomes or triads. You may have seen such couples stating they are “looking for a...

Are you putting in effort to keep your sex life 🌶spicyyy or just waiting and wishing for things to change on their own?  This is the final instalment of our podcast series the 5 Ways to Reignite the 🔥Fire in Long-Term Relationships where we cover the 5th way: Doing something different that takes deliberate effort. Because epic relationships, awesome adventures and 🔥hot sex lives don't just appear out of thin air! If you missed the first 3 parts of the series we covered: ✅ Having some...

What gets you hot and bothered in the bedroom? In this episode we are continuing our discussion of the 5 Ways to Reignite the 🔥Fire in Long Term Relationships with #4... Increasing sexual and erotic energy! So how exactly do you do that? Maybe it’s being touched somewhere unusual where you’re  not normally touched, or that you don’t normally think of as an erogenous zone?  Like the side of your ankle which André shares a story about.  Or maybe it is something that allows you to prepare...

When we are in longer-term relationships we can have so many amazing things - security, safety, familiarity and predictability and a safe haven. However, these things we love can be the very things that can dampen the mystery, intrigue, excitement and longing that are strong foundations for desire and eroticism.  Hence why it is so important to find ways of keeping the excitement alive in our relationship.  In Part 1 of The 5 Ways to Reignite the Fire in Long-Term Relationships we spoke of...

We often expect our partner to be both our best friend and erotic partner. But these two needs often push against each other.  On the one hand, we need security, safety, familiarity and predictability and a safe haven and secure base. But we also need adventure, unpredictability, mystery and surprise which is what ⛽️fuels sexual energy! Join us, your hosts and coaching and therapist duo T&A -Tara and André as we discuss desire in relationships in Part one of: The 5 Ways to REIGNITE...

Whenever you try something new, you’re bound to make some mistakes or literally “step in it” as you try to figure out what to do and not to do. This is especially the case when there are people, relationships and feelings involved - like when you’re navigating the complexities of polyamorous relationships which requires a unique set of skills, insights and things to consider. In this podcast episode, we discuss the essential essential ✅ Do's and 🛑 Don'ts of Polyamory - from parking your ego...