In a world that offers only toxic or shallow definitions of manhood, we must examine the Scriptures to discover what it truly means to be a man. As men who are pursuing Christ, we recognize our culture sends conflicting messages about manhood and masculinity. This has led to a lot of confusion among men. In this episode, Mike Adams, Daniel Black, and Chris Rivers discuss conflict in marriage, personalities and how they manifest passivity, and the role of community in navigating marital conflict. Here are a few key concepts Mike communicates during this episode: Typically, passivity is associated with timidity, avoiding responsibility, or simply having a “laid back” personality. Mike explains how passivity manifested in his life as a Type A personality. HIs assertiveness, desire for control and power, and need to give direction caused him to be passive in the way he related to people. This often led him to be  insensitive to others’ feelings and lacking in empathy. The personality differences between Mike and his wife and his strong desire for control led to conflicts early on in their marriage. Over time, Mike learned the importance of inviting his wife’s perspective into situations and giving validity to her suggestions and preferences. The role of community was integral to their marriage.  As they experienced patterns of conflict and increased divisiveness in their relationship, Mike sought out help from a couple in their church. They helped mediate the conflict between Mike and his wife and gave perspective on the situation. Making the decision to invite another couple into their lives and relationship involved a high degree of vulnerability.  There is always some level of fear when you expose your weaknesses and are willing to be honest about your struggles. However, Mike saw this as an opportunity to reject passivity and move towards growth in his marriage and his relationship with God. Two Bible passages mentioned in the episode: 2 Timothy 1:7 - For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. Galatians 6:2 - Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: A Man and His Wife Study mention: This teaching can be found by visiting: gracechurchsc.org/mrt Biblical Femininity Study mention: This teaching can be found by visiting: gracechurchsc.org/ezer Join a men’s roundtable study by finding a campus near you and register for Authentic Manhood by visiting: gracechurchsc.org/mrt If you know a man that would benefit from hearing this episode, share it with him. Having intentional conversations around these principles is a great way to disciple and help others move towards Christ and the Church. Have questions or want us to discuss a topic? Email us at [email protected].