Today we've got a very special episode: we're sharing an interview we did on Rachel Wright's show The Wright Conversations. In this episode we discuss going to therapy with family members, divorce, defining non-romantic relationships, inclusivity in relationship studies and much more! Rachel has a variety of interesting guests on her show every week, so be sure to check out other episodes of The Wright Conversations too! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community...

Today we're excited to share a conversation with Jessica Fern and David Cooley about their new book, Polywise. Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonogamy, The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships, and Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in...

This week we're taking some time to explore what happens when life's demands and outside stressors take a toll on even solid relationships. Things like busy schedules, financial woes, health issues, or other obligations can absolutely limit the time and energy you have for a relationship. We’ll be discussing strategies for collaborating through life’s ups and downs, keeping communication strong, getting creative with quality time, and more in today's episode. If this show is helpful to you,...

Today, we’re sharing a preview of one of our favorite podcasts: Private Parts Unknown. Private Parts Unknown is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo,...

Today we're rejoined by Evita Sawyers, who was last on the show back on episode 310. Evita is back to talk about her new book, "A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Nonmonogamous." Evita “Lavitaloca” Sawyers is a non-monogamy coach, speaker, and educator. Creator of “Today’s Polyamory Reminder”. Her approach is both frank yet empathetic and she is appreciated for her vulnerable openness about her own challenges in non-monogamy and helping others to grow.Check...

Today's episode is another Q&A, this time with Amanda Katherine from the Live Your F*ck Yes Life. Amanda Katherine (she/they) — — is on a mission to help you face your fears, speak your truth and get you one step closer to living your f*ck yes life. She has worked as a trauma informed coach, writer and facilitator since 2016 and as an artist, actor and storyteller for the better part of two decades. In 2018, they launched their podcast, Live Your F*ck Yes Life — the space to be for...

Today we have a special episode highlighting an interview Dedeker did on the podcast Initiated Survivor, hosted by Kelsey Harper. Kelsey is a clinical psychologist and a survivor of sexual violence, and on her show she speaks directly with other survivors to hear their stories and offer practical skills for reclaiming their lives. Dedeker shares her experience with intimate partner violence within a non-monogamous context, since there are very few (if any) resources for survivors of violence...

Today we're diving deep into the world of drama! Have you ever met someone who just seems to thrive on it? Or maybe you've seen a bit of that drama-lover in yourself? We're going to be talking about why some of us need drama in our lives (there's science behind it!), and discussing some of the behaviors and whys behind a need for drama. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free...

Today we're talking about the five different communication styles in order to help us identify some of the healthy and unhealthy ways we might be expressing ourselves. If we can learn to assert ourselves in a healthy, respectful way, it can improve the quality of our relationships, along with overall wellbeing and happiness. We'll go over some tools and techniques we can use to start improving our quality of communication. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing...

Today we're talking about aggressive fairness in non-monogamy. We all want equitable relationships, but in a relationship style as fluid as non-monogamy there is often more to consider than simple fairness. We'll be exploring what aggressive fairness means and looks like, discuss what fair means for a relationship (non-monogamous and monogamous), and talk about some helpful ways you can find solutions to the questions around equity and fairness. If this show is helpful to you, consider...

Today we're discussing emotional safety and how our close relationships can provide a safe and comforting way to enhance our positive emotions and regulate our negative ones. Unfortunately, many relationships are lacking the feeling of safety and support necessary to facilitate honest emotional expression. We are going to look at a couple recent research questionnaires that set out to measure these qualities of our relationships and see how we can use them to improve our own romantic and...

This week we're highlighting an interview Dedeker did on Rachel Krantz's show, Help Existing. Rachel is also the author of Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-Monogamy. Rachel and Dedeker have a great conversation about boundaries, covering topics like, How do you figure out what your boundaries are? How should you go about communicating boundaries in a way that is both firm and compassionate? How can you remain flexible and open to change without having porous boundaries?...

We're continuing our Q&A episode today with guest Kitty Stryker. Kitty has been working on defining and creating a consent culture for over 13 years through her writing, workshops, and website consentculture.com. She's the editor of "Ask: Building Consent Culture," author of "Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook," and is especially interested in bringing conversations about consent out of the bedroom into everyday life. In her copious free time, Kitty works as a street medic for...

Today we have a special guest who has been on our show before! Kitty Stryker has been working on defining and creating a consent culture for over 13 years through her writing, workshops, and website consentculture.com. She's the editor of "Ask: Building Consent Culture," author of "Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook," and is especially interested in bringing conversations about consent out of the bedroom into everyday life. In her copious free time, Kitty works as a street medic for...

Today we're discussing aromanticism and aromantic partnerships! A lot of us have heard of asexuality, but the spectrum of aromanticism is a little less widely known. Someone who is aromantic experiences little to no romantic attraction to people of any gender, and lacks interest in having romantic relationships, but that doesn't mean the connections they may form with others are lesser than those of us who have romantic partnerships. We're going to discuss the spectrum of aromanticism, some...

Today, we're talking about the quality of relationships, and not necessarily romantic ones, and how they can have significant positive effects on your mental, emotional, and physical health. We'll talk about some research findings and discuss some practical ways you can make positive change in all your relationships. Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYVisitShamelesscare.com...

As one of the common pop psychology buzzwords on social media today, we've all heard the word "toxic" applied to different situations and relationships. But with the uptick in usage that is sometimes not always accurate or detailed, we can lose sight of its meaning. Today's episode is a lengthy dive into what it really means to be toxic, exploring some common bad behaviors and why they happen. Finally, we're going to leave you with some tangible ways to make positive changes without blame or...

We're back with another Q&A episode, and this time we're joined by Leanne Yau, aka Poly Philia! Leanne is a polyamory educator and sex-positive influencer. She creates and curates humorous and educational memes, tips, videos, and other bite-size content on non-monogamy, queer relationships, and sex positivity, and was named #1 in Cosmopolitan's '10 Polyamory Experts to Follow on TikTok'. Leanne has been actively non-monogamous since she was 17 years old, and her content draws from her own...

Today we're joined by Irene Morning, MS, to discuss her book, The Polyamory Paradox, and to pick her brain about somatic coaching, her writing, and more!Irene is a somatic pleasure coach, intimacy educator, polyamorous human, and author of the bestselling book, The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy. Through her coaching, workshops, writing, and in-person sex-positive events, she guides others in creating relationships that fulfill their unique needs and...

Even if you aren't a spiritual person or don't have a spiritual practice, we have strategies that allow us to avoid facing reality and minimize feeling difficult emotions during times of turmoil. We're going to discuss why we do this, what spiritual bypassing looks like in real life, and how to tell when you're engaging in healthy coping mechanisms versus unhealthy avoidance tactics. Treat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free...

This week's episode is for everyone out there who has had a loved one come out to them as non-monogamous. There are a lot of feelings that may come up; you may feel confused, afraid for their wellbeing, or you may have not even heard the term before at all. Listen to this episode where we go back to basics of non-monogamy, some tactics for reacting well to your loved one's journey, and future expectations. Some resources: A fantastic, short book which provides a great jumping off point for...

Today we're joined by Billy Procida to answer some more of our Patreon listeners' questions! Billy Procida is a stand-up comedian in New York City where he runs a monthly naked comedy show. He's been published in Mashable and Marie Claire, and has interviewed his exes for over 9 years on The Manwhore Podcast [feel free to give a disclaimer that it's not exactly the bro show they'd expect from the title — it's kind of like Dan Savage meets Marc Maron. Or just read out this bracket note. If you...

Today, we’re sharing a preview of another show from the Pleasure Podcast Network: Shameless Sex. Join April and Amy as they inspire radical self-love, sexual empowerment, and shame-free intimacy. Shameless Sex is unabashed real talk about sexuality with a playful twist. Today’s clip features return guest and dirty talk Sexpert Lola Kat to talk all about how to master the art of talking dirty in (and out of) the bedroom.  Find out more at Shamelesssex.com. Learn more about your ad choices....

On today's episode, we're talking about honesty...honestly. Many of us are taught from childhood that honesty is the best policy, but is it really? We'll be talking about radical honesty, selfish honesty, when "just being honest" might mean "just being a jerk," and, as always, we'll be sharing one of our communication tools at the end of the episode to help you approach honesty in the most informed, nuanced way possible. Treat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to...

We talk a lot about polyamory and monogamy on this show, but what about ambiamory? You may have heard it floating around recently; today we're going to talk about what it is, some of the potential challenges that might face people who identify as ambiamorous, and continue the age-old conversation of identity versus preference when it comes to relationship styles. Connect with your partner every day using Paired. Download the app at paired.com/MULTI.Join Beducated for 40% off their yearly pass...