Neither one of us knew how to handle meltdowns and shutdowns, but we experienced both.  Both were challenging to deal with and were emotionally draining for us and probably our exes.  Knowing your partner is neurodiverse can definitely help you deal with these issues, but unfortunately neither one of us were prepared enough to handle these as well as we would have liked to. Please feel free to e-mail us at [email protected] and follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love.  Thanks everyone!