The more we have learned about Autism Spectrum Differences (ASD) and Neurodiversity, the more we understand the men we were in relationships with.  In the beginning of our relationships, the men we fell in love with shared the best parts of themselves with us and made us believe that anything was possible.  However, as we really got to know these wonderful men, things changed very quickly. Because we believed they were capable of achieving anything they focused on, we supported their dreams and held on to the hope that the story we were told in the earlier parts of our relationships would hold true as things moved forward. Understanding the different languages that neurodiverse couples speak, has helped us see where we made some assumptions that may have negatively impacted us and our relationships.