Understanding neurodiversity has helped us both learn that we sometimes trusted our partners and prioritized their needs, at the expense of ourselves and our emotional and physical well-being.  At various times, we thought our exes were trying to control things that happened in our relationship.  However, looking back, we now realize that their actions were an attempt to maintain the equilibrium they had created (or craved) in their lives.  Unfortunately, at the time, this looked like they were trying to control us and many of the major life decisions that we should have been making together.   As we know, healthy romantic partnerships involve respectful communication, give and take, and trusting each other.  Unfortunately, these were not always present in our relationships, and some major decisions were made unilaterally by our partners, tin an attempt o control their environment and maintain equilibrium in their lives.  We are sharing this information because others in neurodiverse relationships may have experienced similar challenges, and sometimes it helps to know that you are not alone.   We now know that logically discussing, defining and agreeing on what partnership looks like for each person in our relationships may have been a helpful way to avoid some of the challenges that we experienced in our neurodiverse relationships.  Please follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love Check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com Listen to the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google or any platform you use to listen to other podcasts. Reach out to us by e-mail at: [email protected] Thanks everyone!