“Hi Tom, my name is Kelsey & I’m a new listener and I love your content already. It’s clear you put an extraordinary amount of time and care into your work, and you genuinely want to help others.
I’m a graduate student that moved to TN by myself, and I started fostering Oliver last Thursday. The shelter estimates that he is about 1 yr & 10 months old, and he’s a black lab/Great Dane mix. Oliver has been in the shelter for about 3 months and before that he was in an abusive home where the owner also left him in a crate for about 12 hours a day. Despite all of that, Oliver has the sweetest demeanor, is super cuddly, and loves everyone. He struggles a lot with terrible anxiety, although I understand he’s been through an extreme amount of stress and change lately. I’m planning on adopting him and building a healthy relationship with Oliver is my priority. I’ve been walking him 5-10 miles a day, playing with him (if I can get him interested with the toy), and slowly starting with obedience training.
At first, I was doing everything wrong and was feeding into his anxiety by projecting my emotions onto him. I didn’t realize this until listening, so thank you, we’ve already started making progress on his separation anxiety. He does still sleep in the bed with me, but has gotten much better with me leaving him alone.
However, with the obedience training, Oliver is not good motivated at all. I’ve tried a variety of different treats, not feeding him breakfast, and limiting distractions. He avoids eye contact and cowers when I bring the treat closer to his nose in attempt to motivate him with the smell. He occasionally does well with chicken, but it seems like he thinks that I’m baiting him and will hurt him if he goes for the chicken. I understand he’s still getting comfortable (a week is very little time) and this may be something that will just take time. I’m more than happy to be patient and just keep working slowly, day by day. I just want to make sure I’m not doing anything wrong/making it worse. Thank you so much!”
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01/26/24