Subscribe to Mamamia Victoria Vanstone started drinking at 11 but it took several decades and two children to realise her drinking was a problem. For her and for others. An embarrassing problem she could no longer ignore.In this episode of No Filter, guest host Kate Langbroek speaks to Victoria about the massive red flags she missed in her twenties and thirties.  So what exactly was it that turned ‘the life of the party’ towards sobriety? And does she feel like she’s lost her identity now that she is no longer a ‘party girl’? THE END BITS:Listen to more No Filter interviews here and follow us on Instagram here.Victoria Vanstone's new book A Thousand Wasted Sundays is available here. Victoria co-hosts Sober Awkward podcast here. Feedback: [email protected] more Mamamia podcasts here.CREDITS:Host: Kate LangbroekKate Langbroek's book Ciao Bella is available here.Producer: Kimberley BraddishExecutive Producer: Mia FreedmanAudio Producer: Leah PorgesMamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.