In this episode, Jess sits down with Chaneé Jackson Kendall, a black queer polyamorous woman, activist, educator and content creator. The two talk about the differences of poly theory vs. poly reality as people who experience polycule life everyday. With 15 years of polyamorous living experience, Chaneé has also brought up her son in a household with multiple mothers and father present. This has only elevated the lifestyle that their family is able to live in many ways, highlighting a shared workload, endless love, and financial freedom. They dig deeper into racial assumptions about polyamory and the importance of culturally competent poly education. In this episode of Open Late: • Polyamory Theory vs. Real Polyamorous Living • What’s a "Mom-glomerate" • The Benefits of Community Parenting  • 4 Pillars of Intentional Polyamory • Healthy Time Away from Your Child Connect with Michelle: • Instagram: @chaneespeaks • Instagram: @blackpolypride Connect with Jessica: • Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast • Website: openlatepodcast.com  • Youtube: Open Late Podcast • What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz • Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp • Open Late Dictionary • Asking for a friend (AFAF) Question Form Evita's Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/open-late/id1587979583?i=1000564831532 Evita's Book: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/a-polyamory-devotional-evita-lavitaloca-sawyers/1142751200;jsessionid=13E24DE2E77C17FD77A06C03A10696A0.prodny_store02-atgap12?ean=9781990869235&st=AFF&2sid=Linktree%20Pty%20Ltd_100589976_NA&sourceId=AFFLinktree%20Pty%20Ltd Polyamory and Parenthood by The Daylovers https://remodeledlove.samcart.com/products/polyamory-parenthood-book Quotes from the episode: 2:47 People have a conversation about polyamory in the clouds, and I like to have conversations about polyamory on the ground. – Chaneé Jackson Kendall 4:27 When we got married, we had our partners by our side at our wedding ceremony. – Chaneé Jackson Kendall 9:28 I fell madly in love with a woman three months before my husband and I got married. Chaneé Jackson Kendall    14:50 Our life is not public, but We Are Who We Are everywhere we go. – Chaneé Jackson Kendall 17:46 When our son was three months old me, and my partner fell in love with another woman. – Chaneé Jackson Kendall 18:50 The reality is that the way our current society is set up like even with lots and lots of money, two-parent households are largely unhappy. – Chaneé Jackson Kendall 34:28 I wanted to let other people, who naturally love the way that I love, know that it's not just something that upper-middle-class white people do. – Chaneé Jackson Kendall  39.09 Whenever you are taking in content, make sure that you never take advice from someone who's not where you want to be. – Chaneé Jackson Kendall 47:21 It is part of our relational culture that we should all have the freedom to date if we desire. – Chaneé Jackson Kendall 48:15 People are always so worried about the kids in polyamory; meanwhile, this is the most over-loved child ever. - Jessica Esfandiary 55:37 When you have something good, you can always be open to better. – Chaneé Jackson Kendall Take advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions. • Open Smarter Course The product I love who support this show: •  Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20 •  The Oh Club OPENLATE •  Desire Resorts    This is a Sabbatical Jess Production Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices