As Gina Gutierrez, the co-founder of Dipsea, says in her Ted Talk, “Using their memories, fantasies, and some focus - women can turn themselves on with their thoughts.” In this conversation, Gina and I discuss exploration of fantasy, the differences between erotica and porn, ways to figure out what turns you on, and barriers to pleasure. I like the way Gina puts it, "Your desire is not a problem to be solved, but a fire to be stoked." You may discover a new tool to spark the flame in this episode. Use code CINDY for a free month of Dipsea Audio Stories More on this topic The pleasure crisis and why good sex matters Orgasm is a big brain event Women's Anatomy of Arousal book review Come As You Are book review Exploring your perspective of pleasure Fantasy and play in the bedroom Female arousal takes more than 5 minutes How desire really works with Dr. Lori Brotto Your brain and sex video JOIN my Newsletter Community. FOLLOW on Instagram. VISIT my Website.