How can anyone authentically love you if you don’t allow them to see you? That’s the question posed by today’s guest, Terri Cole. Boundaries are our own personal rules of engagement and they allow us to live our lives to the fullest because they allow you to be seen: your wants, desires and needs. The real you–the you that deserves a place in this world. In today’s show, we do a short assessment to help you see which of the 5 areas of your life need stronger boundaries with action steps to help you feel more confident.     WHAT'S IN THIS EPISODE: [3:30] Why Terri Cole is THE go to expert on boundaries. [8:30] Is setting firm boundaries selfish? [9:45] YOU are the boss of you (and your boundaries). [11:20] Boundaries are your own personal rules of engagement. [11:50] Are all boundaries created equal? [14:30] Are your boundaries porous, rigid or healthy? [18:00] You have the RIGHT to prioritize yourself! [19:00] What are the 5 categories of boundaries? [21:00] What are the 5 categories of boundaries? [33:40] Giving is love… over-giving is dysfunctional. [34:10] How can I set healthy proactive boundaries?   FOR SHOW NOTES AND MORE, GO TO: https://tanyadalton.com/podcasts/episode-260-proactive-boundaries-with-terri-cole