Adolescence is a time of distance from the family of origin and identification with a peer group. So what are the perils and benefits of attachment during this developmental period? https://www.newportacademy.com/resources/mental-health/teen-attachment-disorder/   Transcript you're listening to psych with mike for more episodes or to connect with the show with comments ideas or to be a 0:06 guest go to www.cyclicmike.com follow the show on twitter at psych with 0:13 mike or like the facebook page with mike now here's psych with mike 0:19 [Music] welcome into the psych with mike library this is dr michael mahon i am here with 0:24 mr brett newcomb hello i have too many pens well you know freud has an explanation 0:29 for that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar that's what they say but sometimes not huh 0:36 how are you today i'm good so anything uh new and exciting going on in your life 0:41 not a thing yeah life is just bland is that well bland or just 0:48 stable good yeah yeah yeah so not blank life is good yeah life is good and you're wearing a pink shirt today for 0:54 anybody who is watching you on the youtubes i've always liked the color pink do you yeah 0:59 you don't feel uh conscientious in a pink shirt 1:05 no yeah well i always feel conscientious uh conspicuous is it oh well well can't 1:11 you i mean yeah conspicuous yes or or uh 1:17 uh what would what would you call it if you were were worried about what other people thought not conscientious 1:22 well yeah okay anyway it doesn't matter all right so uh good segue though 1:29 yes because we we're going to talk about um 1:34 attachment i would say that's because i'm a professional exactly uh you know 1:41 that the foundation of what i believe in 1:46 psychotherapy is emotional regulation i believe that that emotional regulation 1:52 is the result of how you are how you internalize the external objects 1:58 so you're the quality of the relationship with the primary caregiver when the child is young 2:05 and we talk a lot about how childhood trauma and this emotional regulation 2:12 developmental process can cause issues when the child is developing one 2:19 of the things that we've never talked about and i found an article about it and then i thought oh yeah we definitely should talk about this 2:25 is how does this affect the developmental process during adolescence 2:30 and i know that you were talking about this morning that 2:36 when you were young you felt like that 2:42 the movers and shakers of the peer group that 2:48 you were associated with didn't really give you a lot of positive 2:53 feedback no uh if that's what you heard i didn't say it clearly okay 2:59 i grew up in a large suburban high school yeah when i got to high school and adolescence 3:06 that was very cast organized i grew up in a southern town where 3:12 your social standing could be measured by how far away from the railroad tracks you lived the closer that you lived to 3:19 the railroad tracks the poorer and less socially acceptable your family was 3:24 but when they put us in high school they lumped us all together so people had to have identifiers we had groups that we 3:30 belong to we had letterman jackets for band and for athletics and debate team 3:36 and and what have you to find little sub categories and clicks and so on 3:42 i was acutely aware of how all that played out when i was in high school because i read all the time 3:48 and i had a curiosity about how does this work and what i was telling you is that by 3:55 definition i was relegated to the lower socioeconomic 4:00 community because of where i lived what my father did for a living how much money we had those kind of things 4:07 but