Have you ever wondered what is the most important question in psychotherapy? No spoilers here just check out the conversation!   https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-therapy/202209/the-most-important-question-in-therapy   Transcript: you're listening to psych with Mike for more episodes or to connect with the show with comments ideas or to be a 0:07 guest go to www.psychwithmike.com follow the show on 0:12 Twitter at psych with Mike or like the Facebook page at psych with Mike now 0:18 here's psych with Mike welcome into the site with Mike Library this is Dr Michael Mahon and I am here with Mr Brett Newcombe hello the uh psych with 0:26 Mike Library window is open that's a new way to start yeah I mean I 0:32 guess people could walk by and ask for ice cream but you can either look in the window or jump out yeah whichever you 0:37 want whichever you feel is how do you feel about that I I feel really good about it I'm the point is that it's it's 0:45 very nice outside and after the summer that we've had in St Louis I am really 0:53 glad that the weather is milder it's been a beautiful week yeah so uh we 1:01 don't even need to get into global warming because that's because that's a crazy kind of divisive 1:07 topic but uh it was really hot this summer yeah and it's hard still hot in 1:14 major sections of the country and the world yeah it and and when you look at what's been going on in India uh in a 1:21 third of the country underwater that's I can't even conceive of what that would 1:27 be like yeah so anyway so I'm glad that we're going to get some milder temperatures I am uh a feared that the 1:37 Farmer's Almanac is predicting a tremendous amount of snow in the St 1:44 Louis area for this winter so we'll see how how that works out yeah 1:50 so how are you today I'm doing well you don't want to talk about anything we were talking about before the before we 1:56 started this do you no okay because there's been lots of stuff going 2:03 on there is always always interesting in doing therapy people come in and it's 2:08 like there's always going on lots of stuff going on yeah so 2:14 um when you were doing therapy I think that 2:19 uh probably each individual person doing 2:26 therapy has their own style obviously yes yeah 2:34 and probably most people would have a different answer to this question but 2:39 what was your favorite or most important question in therapy 2:52 how are you this week and what would you like to talk about so what's hot what's Burning uh in your 3:00 mind your Mentor slash hero um 3:05 blanking on his name yellow yeah Irving yallum uh uh his intro question was what 3:14 hails so in all of his books that's how he would start out all of his therapy 3:20 sessions what what else what else yeah um which I always found pedantic and 3:28 beatnik like yeah but uh but yeah I mean he always wore the black turtleneck and 3:34 I don't know that he wore what is the the cap that the French wear you know we all have our affectations in 3:42 our presentation exactly I used to tell people would call and say yeah I'm thinking about coming to you I've been referred to you uh 3:49 How will I know and I would say you know it is incredibly important that there is 3:55 a sense of safety and connectivity for this to work so come see me come see me 4:00 once or twice and don't pay me but if you come back the third time pay me for 4:06 three sessions and every session after that but I really feel like if you spend some time with me you'll get a sense of 4:13 whether I'm going to be a fit for you whether I'm going to be able to hear you and what you need to talk about right uh 4:21 well you're Jumping the Shark because we we definitely want to talk