My returning guest today is Dr. Avrum Weiss. Dr. Weiss is a psychotherapist, award-winning author, speaker, and teacher. His decade-long work on understanding the inner lives of men culminated with his recently published bestseller "Hidden in Plain Sight: How Men's Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships." We talk about what a man's lack of sexual desire means for a relationship and the root causes of that low desire. Learn what men are taught about sex that harms our relationships and how not to see sex as a performance. "Think of foreplay as starting the minute you open your eyes in the morning" ~Dr. Avrum Weiss Too many men ignore their sexual desires and use sex as validation and reassurance. Sex is about more than orgasm. Men often get a bad rap as being selfish lovers, but your pleasure does matter. Topics and Questions 1:50 Is there a particular fear that men have of women, or are there lots of them? 2:50 - The reason behind low sexual desire in men. 4:15 - Why are men so preoccupied with women's orgasms? 6:55 Men are not experiencing a whole lot of pleasure in sex. 10:23 - If men's fear of women goes back to Adam and Eve, is that just how it is? 11:49 - Do men cover up their distress from women? 12:21 - How do men go over this sense of competition in sex? 14:43 - How do we get men and women to understand each other better? 15:24 - What are men afraid of related to sex? 17:27 - Is monogamy an artificial creation? 20:07 - Humans are driven by fear. 20:52 - Do women and men see sexual issues or challenges the same way? 22:34 - Cultural differences around the world. 23:22 - What is the best step for a man with low sexual desire to change that and improve his relationship? 24:33 - Is there one more thing you wish more men knew about sex? 26:48 - Don't make sex the last thing you do in a day 31:08 - What women say they learned from their mothers about men. 32:32 - What is the best way for people to learn more about your work? Links Avrum Weiss PhD -- https://www.avrumweissphd.com/ Hidden in Plain Sight: How Men's Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships -- On Amazon Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talk Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andy_grant Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related! YouTube | Real Men Feel --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support