Mistaken Identity with Doug DaneSeason 2, Episode 12 You do not have to be trapped by the story of what happened to you. Doug Dane is former Executive Director over Bob Proctor’s consultant division and author of his his new book, Mistaken Identity, which is a manual for letting go of the past. Doug is thriving in his life, but it is hard won freedom. Doug was adopted into a violently abusive, alcoholic household and as a teenager fell into a ring of pedophiles, and developed his own abuse of alcohol and drugs and failed relationships. How did he do it? How can you create your own story of overcoming your story? Doug shares his experience and guidance for you. To preorder Doug’s book, Mistaken Identity: A guide to letting go of a past that’s holding you back, click here: https://amzn.to/3YUP6gM If you are interested in joining his clinical trial of using Mistaken Identity and living with the exercises, verify your preorder of the book here: https://www.dougdane.com/mistakenidentity To follow Doug and his journey, visit www.dougdane.com or follow him on social media: https://www.instagram.com/doug.dane/, https://www.facebook.com/dougdane/ You can also watch the video recording of this podcast on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/ze7V_AN3idg 1:39 - Doug Dane served as Executive Director at the Proctor Gallagher Institute and mentored some of Bob Proctor’s top consultants in the world. He is a survivor of sexual and physical abuse and has turned his experience into a system to help people discover their true identity. He is on a mission to show people how to let go of the past. 4:44 - “II got dropped into a very violent alcoholic family as a baby. For the first 13 years I was witness to a lot of violence…and emotional abuse.” Through these and other experiences, Doug developed alcohol and drug abuse and fell into being a victim of a ring of pedophiles. 8:40 - Doug shares his experience of reading Think and Grow Rich and meeting Bob Proctor and finding how why he was struggling to earn money. “I grew up with a pretty lousy attitude toward money and myself. I changed my mind.” 10:54 - “I was worried about everyone who knew me in business [when my story was released in the newspaper].” But Doug was congratulated and asked, “How did you [overcome your past?]” 16:28 - The 34 years Doug spent unraveling his story is not a fast journey, it takes time and dedication. Change is simple but we make it hard. 17:01 - Doug hired a private investigator to find his key abuser out of wanting to understand his story and see if he could forgive and help him. “I could have become him,” says Doug. “I am earnest for understanding. I came to an understanding why my parents did this.” 21:41 - “Our whole problem in the world today is perception and judgement. We were taught to judge. You never measure up. We use that as our lens to perceive things. I made my mind up, I wanted to look at this differently.” 23:32 - What are the differences between traditional therapy and coaching? Why does one work and other perpetuate problems? “Therapy and medication is the cultural paradigm for where we turn to when we don’t feel good about ourselves.” 27:49 - “You are mistaken about how you see yourself. Most people don’t believe in themselves. We have been taught, if you are struggling, ask someone for advice. We are surrounded by people who doubt themselves and we ask them for advice.” 30:43 - Therapy is in conflict with how our mind operates. “With therapy you just keep talking about [the problem]. Your mind is a machine. You direct it through your thinking. It is controlled by the image you have of yourself. It only works in the present moment. Your mind works perfectly if you are in a relaxed state.” 32:18 - “I know most people are suffering from anxiety and depression…and hold the cure in their hands. Rid yourself of judgement and criticism. Plug into who you really are…and muster up th