This is RhetoricLee Speaking, Episode Three: If you took the time to write it, don’t throw out the script; it’s not going to end well. You think it’s gonna be all Rick-at-Bird-Person’s-Wedding but it’s probably gonna be more Maya-at-Ainsley-and-Kash’s-Wedding.   “Throwing out the script” is a familiar cliche in television and movies; that moment when, in a ferver of authenticity, a person ditches their preplanned remarks and, to bring in a second cliche for kicks, decides to speak from the heart. In almost every case, that speech from the heart turns out to be the right choice: eloquent, precise, and usually life-altering. Throwing out the script continues to be a classic fantasy moment because it allows us to believe that our true intentions need not the artifice of language; our heart’s desire always finds the right words. But that fantasy doesn’t hold up to experience. You can have scripted remarks that are all the more heartfelt for their careful crafting and impromptu remarks that are utter and total b******t.  You know what’s way better than speaking from the heart? Taking the time to thoughtfully craft what you plan to say. Put the shit that’s in your heart down on paper. Look at it. If it’s a cliche--which it will be--throw it out, write something better, and speak from that. https://www.rhetoriclee.com/e/03