Who are you? Not who have you become, what you do because of someone or something else, but who are you in your metaphorical bones? Strip away all of the bits of us that are there due to external influences and why we do certain things, act in specific ways, like or dislike this that or the other, all of that is not US. Those bits are accessories. add ons, patch work. Didn't know your psyche was Frankensteins monster, did you?