Episodes
PIMP GIMP! Disability advocate Robin Wilson-Beattie sets Sandra straight about loving and having autonomy over your own body, no matter what the circumstances. TOPICS: Types of disability, Cross-disability, Spinal cord injury, Sex with paralysis, Being special-special, Robin's rare birth defect, Physical therapy sex ed, BDSM, Sex and dating, Person-frist language, Vocabulary: "able-bodied," "crip," and "gimp," Confidence, Feeling broken, Disabled-not-desperate, Self-driving cars,...
Published 05/15/15
TRIPLE A! Sandra joins a group of asexuals (Aces) at Occidental College to find out about this invisible orientation, including being asexual, aromantic and/or agender. TOPICS: Allosexual, Sexually Repulsed, Amatonormativity, Romantic coding, Coming out to family, Dating, Being lonely, Friendship, Intimacy, Visibility, Ace pride float hopes, Robot assumptions, Cheek kissing, Trying to be sexual, Consent, Resources and so much more! Checkout the Asexual Visibility and Education Network and The...
Published 05/09/15
DILDO INCEPTION! Sandra marvels at Ox & Jesus of Oxballs, a predominantly gay hardcore toy company. TOPICS: Anal play, Vaginal cul-de-sac, Fringe fetishes, Skyscraper dildo, Straight market dongs, Nipple grippers, Art, 3D printing, Pushing balls forward, Cockring functionality, Bulges, Slings, The Hung, Longterm cocking wear, Penetrators, Goal-oriented size kings, Hollow plugs, Matterhorn lube slide plugs, Foreskin enthusiasm, Toys popular in Japan, 50 Shades of Grey tampon, Pigs &...
Published 05/06/15
NO RANCH DRESSING! Girl Sex 101 author Allison Moon and performance artist Marriah Moonkindred teach Sandra how to throw a party. TOPICS: Hot lesbian action, Activities, Bar area, Friendly door, Sex and social anxiety, Accidental sex parties, Welcome circle, Kinky Salon, Betty Dodson, Jack & Jill Offs, Other parties, In front of friends, Bonobos, Organic vs planned sex, Giving permission as a host, Beacon of Permission. THEN: Creating your container, BDSM, Swinging scene, Curating guests,...
Published 04/25/15
KEEPING SECRETS! Sandra seeks therapist & author Dr. Tammy Nelson's wisdom for creating intentional monogamy, especially after infidelity. TOPICS: 2nd Marriages, Occupations that cheat, Fixing yourself, Transformative sex, Redefining relationships, Surviving affairs, Fixing marriage, Explicit vs impact agreements, Committing to forever, Unconditional love problems, Love as a choice, Desexualizing your relationship, Planning sex, Anticipatory eroticism, Arousal before desire, Types of...
Published 04/21/15
SACRED SEX! Storyteller, author and speaker Charles Eisenstein (Sacred Economics) explores the leverage point of sexuality as a path to a better world.  TOPICS: Artificial sex and money scarcity, Patriarchy, Jealousy, Changing the world, Believing it's possible, Heightened authenticity, Intimacy, Love as expansion of self to include another, The war on yourself, Nature, Revolutionary pleasure, Conquest of flesh, Reuniting with nature and body, Community, Joint creativity, Consuming fun,...
Published 04/18/15
SHAG-ALOGUE! Fascinating writer and accidental sexpert Grant Stoddard shares how he went from having "the love-making skills of a demented muskrat" to becoming the "Hunter S Thompson of the vagina." Sandra learns so much, including the only time he wished for a smaller penis.  TOPICS: Hobbies, Experiential writing, Sploshing, Class clown, Ameriphile, "Working Stiff," Adventure, Anthropological jape, Large orgy penis, Promiscuity, Estimating penis size, Dildo Peddling, Editorial decisions,...
Published 04/03/15
CONFESSIONS, LIBIDO & G******S! Sandra comes clean with pal Rachael for support. Then, JoEllen Notte, a.k.a. The Redhead Bedhead shares findings about this invisible illness and how it intersects with sex as she prepares to write her upcoming book "Monster Under the Bed." TOPICS: Bipolar II, Hypomania, Lithium, Losing Yourself, Compulsive Behavior, Beds, Autonomy, Treatment, Desexualization, Pinkness' @pinkness' #OrgasmQuest, Losing Libido, Anti-Depressant Conundrum, Just Doing it,...
Published 03/28/15
THE FINGER TEST! Sandra investigates multiple orgasms on all bodies with the help of sex expert Rebecca Alvarez of Body Feminine, filmmaker and drag performer Joshua Grannell (Peaches Christ) and even a little Allison Moon (Girl Sex 101). We explore questions about different kinds of multiple orgasms, who can have them and how!  TOPICS: Drag celebrity superhero, Undercover sex, Drag gender, Sissy, John Waters, Rocky Horror, Heels vs Tucking, Corporate, Popular sex questions, Masturbation...
Published 03/15/15
ANAL G-SPOTTING RETURNS! Sandra responds to listener voicemails on virginity at 27, orgasm issues with partners, fear of sleeping with someone you actually like for once, dating while visually-impaired, repeatedly being repulsed by dates until broken up, fair-trade free-range cage-free porn, anal g-spotting, opinions on what's important for the first time having sex, will you be alone?, sex party selection and how to prepare a nervous partner and a series of beeps. Keep the magic alive. Leave...
Published 03/05/15
WOLVERINE VS MYSTIQUE! Sandra takes on any question from the NYC Sex Nerd Meetup group, then she fires back a few. TOPICS: Internal Orgasm, Kegel Elevator Exercise, Squirting, Kegelcisor, Sex Books: "Blow Him Away," "Red Hot Touch," "SM 101," "Guide to Getting it On," "Urban Tantra," Asexuality (the absence of sexual attraction), Visibility, Morrissey, Wolverine vs Mystique, Flash vs Superman, Nerds on Sex, Sex-Negative Drama, Nervous Partner, Tantric Sex, Yoga, Podcast Drama, Sex Nerd vs...
Published 02/27/15
YELLOW FEVER! Comedian and storyteller Kevin Allison (Risk!, The State) stashes his favorite sex toy and poppers away and tells us how he got into and might get out of his kinky rut. TOPICS: Risk! Storytelling, Gay Before Kindergarten, Sex Clubs, Rimming, Njoy Pure Wand, Kink Aware Professionals, Mollena Williams, Poppers Addiction, Gay Male Culture, Skipper & Gilligan, Bears & Twinks, Giving Away Power, Wanting to Please, Service Dom, Daddy Coach, Sexy Guilt, Raised Catholic, Erotic...
Published 02/18/15
SLUT PROTOCOLS! Recorded live at SF Sketchfest, Sandra explores the good, the bad and the messy of benefitting it up in our friendships. Standup comedy from Eliza Skinner at the top of the show. TOPICS: Bad at it, Benefits, Ruining the Friendship, Friend's Future Partners, Unrequited Love, Brain Juices, Pretty in Pink's Duckie, Transactional Relationships, F*** Buddies, Facebook Input, Insular Lesbian Community. Tea Party Nightmare, Wanting Something More, Psychopaths, Changing Situations,...
Published 02/13/15
Sandra responds to listener voicemails about birth control, getting a girlfriend, the problem with cowgirl, dating with too much armor on, and what to do about your erotic portrait displayed at your ex's place. TOPICS: Virgin STDs, Trusting Yourself, IUD, Withdrawal, Intimacy, Professional Driving, Dating Site Disappointment, Self Worth, Self-Esteem, Empty Dating Site Inbox, Activity Partners, Meetup.com, Seeking Medical Attention, C**t Lacerations, Embitterment Toward Women, Deal with Past...
Published 02/07/15
SCISSORING DEBATE CONTINUED! Sandra finds out how comedian Cameron Esposito's new album title, Same Sex Symbol intersects with pop culture, LGBTQIA visibility and the key to dating. TOPICS: Rhea Butcher, TV Specials, 10 Years a Comic, Lesbian, Dating Boys, Women Friendships, Obvious Child, Vaginal Birth, Biological Clock, Dogs vs Babies, #murphthederph, Lesbian Sex Symbol, Not Butch or Femme, Fashion Advice, Uniqlo, David Bowie, Varied Gender Expression, Confidence, Transparent, Jeffrey...
Published 01/29/15
MILF, GILF and TILF! Japanese plus size porn star Kelly Shibari answers prying questions about porn lingo, vaginal stamina and retiring well from the industry she loves. TOPICS: James Deen, Asian Age Progression, Growing Up in Tokyo, Getting into Porn, Bucket List, Plus Size Sex Ed Video, Jessica Drake, Star Showcase, First Anal Scene Preparation, Cervix Punching, Cuddling, Tease Footage, Couples Porn, Defining Gonzo, Reverse Bukkake, Dress Sizes in Fashion vs Porn, Terms like: Thick vs...
Published 01/21/15
BECOMING YOURSELF! Sandra clarifies her New Year's announcement with ex-cohost Dave Ross (Terrified podcast), exploring their shifting identities, burnout and what it means for their careers. TOPICS: A Private Private Life, Feelings in Standup Comedy, Revealing Secrets, Losing Touch with Yourself, Sex Nerd vs Sex Educator, Public Scrutiny, Rape Jokes, Finding Your Voice, "Feelings Guy," Being All of Yourself, Self-Obsession, Dogs, Licking Your Own G******s, Defining Burnout, Sketch, Memoir,...
Published 01/14/15
POLY-SATURATED! A Zen master of his own emotions, Sandra's relationship mentor talks about the skills he uses to navigate his poly lifestyle. TOPICS: Catholic Wine, Maximum Bandwidth, Knowing Yourself, Dating Your Species, Choosing the Single Life, Ultimatums, Protecting Your Partner by Lying, American Idol, Long Distance Relationship, Getting Cheated On, First Poly Relationship, Veto Power, New Relationship Energy, Triggers, Refusing Comparisons, Patience, Commitment Phobia, High School,...
Published 01/12/15
STEALTH-ER-BATE. Sandra gets real about her deal lately and sex educator Ashley Manta throws down naughty tips for hot phone sex. TOPICS: Sex Nerd vs Sex Ed, Feeling Feelings, Planning for Phone Sex, Why vs How & What, Connective Experience, Verbalizing Sexy, Reading Erotica, Practice Your Words, Narrating, Honesty, Bluetooth, Common Barriers, Breath, Auditory Feedback, Toys, Smiling Sounds,  Moaning Tips, No Limitations and Negotiating Phone Sex. 
Published 01/03/15
HOW TO FLIRT IN COLOMBIA. Author and science communicator Pere Estupinya sheds brilliant light on sex science and sensuality in the Spanish speaking world. TOPICS: Catalan vs Spanish, Male Multiple Orgasm, Scientist at a Sex Party, Orgasm Physiology, Female Ejaculation, Men vs Women, The C**t-G Spot Connection, Sponge Innervation, Vagus Nerve Magic, Spinal Cord Injury Sex, Latin and South American Sensuality vs Gringo Sexuality, Hooking Up in NYC, Flirting in Colombia, Sex Ed vs Science, HPV,...
Published 12/20/14
  JAWLINES! Sandra asks actor Liam McIntyre (Spartacus) forward questions about what it's like to be attractive, learning about fame, true love and how she judged him too soon. TOPICS: Good Genetic Stock, Getting Objectified, Chubby Bullied Kid, San Diego Comic Con, Intense Weight Loss, Objectification, Samuel L. Jackson, Fame, Status, Attractive Assumptions, Narcissism, terrible with Women, True Love, The Game, Men's Health Cover, Skinny to Beefy, on Set Story, Passion, Pretty Bonuses,...
Published 12/11/14
  GETTING LAID THROUGH LAUGHTER! Hilarious comedian, podcaster (Ding-Donger via Nerdist) and actor Matt Braunger shares his sharp insight into the world of sex in standup comedy on both sides of the mic. TOPICS: Last Names, Sex Cave, Rancor, Writing Sex Jokes, April Richardson, Filthy On-Stage, Pushing Buttons, Flirting, Hitting on the Help,  Getting Hit On, Bombing, Unsexy Nudity, Richard Pryer, PSAs, Trying Standup Comedy, Sex Specifics, Making People Laugh, Free Speech, Sex Negative Jokes,...
Published 12/03/14
WORK YOUR ANGLES! Enjoy this special holiday romp with nurse and adult super star Nina Hartley!  Celebrating 30 years in porn, Nina shares the steps to giving pleasure in the driver's seat. TOPICS: Technique vs Attitude, Privilege, Sex Tricks, Intercourse, Coital Alignment Technique, Rhythm, Steps to Wielding a Penis, Empathy to Pleasure, Anterior vs Posterior Walls, Lateral Fornix vs Cervical Os, Fourchette, Lever and Fulcrum, Introitus vs Vestibule, Tolerating vs Craving Penetration, Real...
Published 11/27/14
COVERING UP THE NERD! Sandra asks porn star and edible maker, Justine Joli, inappropriate questions about the pros & cons of being beautiful. Find out what happens when "the world reflects something that [we] don’t see." TOPICS: OkCupid, Finally Seeing Yourself, Bullying, Mullet, Catcalling, Aria Giovanni, Body Dysmorphia, Lesbian Sex, Body Issues, Ideal Porn Star, Tattoos, Bonnie Rotten, Belladonna, "Transexual Fairy Godmother Poop Show," Plastic Surgery Addiction, Dr. Victoria...
Published 11/22/14
GETTING THE HOT SEX YOU WANT! Australian sex therapist and coach Cyndi Darnell shares how to lay the groundwork for expanding your sex life. TOPICS: Coach vs Therapist, Depths of Sexuality, Sloppy Communication, Erotic Fear, Showing Desire, Feminist Men, Learning to do it, Reproduction, Cooking, Hottest Experiences, Jack Morin, Expanding Your Sex Life, Compliment Sandwich, Conscious Sex, Fantasy, Ruining the Mood, Speaking Up for Yourself, Needing to be Liked vs Honorable and How Your Parents...
Published 11/16/14