Welcome to episode 279 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Stella Harris to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you can have a successful threesome, looking at cuckolding and hotwifing and how you can first bring up with your partner you want a threesome.    Stella Harris is a certified intimacy educator, coach, and mediator, who uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. Stella has appeared at conferences across the US and Canada, and regularly provides workshops and guest lectures to colleges and universities.     Stella’s writing has appeared widely, including a weekly sex advice column in her local paper. Highlights of her media appearances include speaking as an expert on Banana Slug sex and appearing on the evening news discussing the importance of sex education in schools.    Stella is the author of two books, Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships, and The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes.        In this episode, you will hear:     What do we mean when we say threesome?  Looking at cuckolding and hot hotwifing  Why it’s important to plan your threesome   The importance of clear communication and agreements when negotiating a threesome  Looking at play party spaces   How you can first bring up with your partner you want a threesome  Understanding that a threesome in real life is not what like you see in porn  The importance of aftercare after a threesome   Engaging in other activities after a threesome such as a coffee or meal  Why you should take things very slowly and test the waters before going deeper    Find Stella Harris Online  https://www.stellaharris.net     Survey  Please fill out this brief survey to help us know the content you want to hear: https://help373205.typeform.com/to/PfsEolrp   101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio