Today I'm getting into Ne-Yo's 2008 song, "Miss Independent", with a guest - ceci bendita. The song is all about Ne-Yo seeing a woman being a boss, getting it all by herself, and him being obsessed and so happy that it seems like he doesn't need to offer or do anything for her. It's funny hearing this song and thinking about the meaning now that we’re older. We talk about the relevance the song had back in 2008 when women were first starting to celebrate being on their own, making their own money, and divorcing ain't sh** dudes. Before that, women were more reliant on men and stayed home as mothers or homemakers, and men were only expected to work and provide financially, but nothing more than that. It left a lot of women feeling unfulfilled, and once they started getting their own bag, they realized that some of these men weren't really providing much else other than money, but when it came to domestic tasks, they were making their life more difficult and not providing enough peace. It's a sentiment that more and more women are coming to terms with, which is why women initiate more divorces, and are happily and intentionally single. We also get into the whole idea of giving a man your "best years" and how women that have children and give a man everything, are so easily discarded and looked down upon for simply aging and are treated like disposable objects, or traded in for a younger better looking woman, or cheated on. This all leads into a conversation on how some men view single mothers as low value, even when those same men are all broke and ugly. Lastly we talk about a clip from Tik Tok from a TLC show called "Unexpected", in which a young girl is going into labor (her and her boyfriend are 17 ish), and he tries to stop her from getting an epidural for the pain. He's controlling and it seems like she has no one else or no where to go. We get into how some men trap women by getting them pregnant as a control tactic, and all the downfalls of that situation. It's a fun episode full of lots of other juicy convo's so make sure to tune in! Follow ceci bendita on IG @ceci.bendita Follow ceci bendita on Tik Tok @ceci.bendita Simpin After Dark MERCH HERE Follow Me IG/Twitter/Tik Tok @simpinafterdark Follow Ashley @ash_friday_  Go like "Simpin After Dark" playlist on Spotify by ashleyym91 Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.