In this episode, Ashley Torrent, psycho-spiritual therapist and intuitive medium, and her partner Lair Torrent, licensed marriage and family therapist and author of The Practice of Love discuss the pros and cons of competition and comparison. Our culture teaches a “win at all cost” attitude but in the final analysis, we find out it actually steals our inner genius. Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual therapist, intuitive medium, and spiritual teacher. She sees both individuals and couples, offers intuitive readings, teaches classes in spiritual mediumship, and is the co-host of The Blue Butterfly Effect Podcast which aims to ground spirituality and explore personal transformation. Ashley believes that as spiritual beings we are all mediums, channels, and energy healers but we have forgotten our true nature and how to use these innate gifts. She also believes based on her personal experience as a complex trauma survivor and practitioner that true healing occurs when we weave together psychological understanding and spiritual practice. She can be found on Instagram @ashleytorrent29.  Lair Torrent is the author of the book, The Practice of Love, Break Old Patterns, Rebuild Trust and Create a Connection that Lasts. He is a leading marriage and family therapist and a mindfulness-based relationship therapist, a DailyOM best-selling author, and a contributing columnist at Inc.com. He has been resourced and interviewed by such notable news outlets and publications as NPR, Rolling Stone, the New York Times, and a host of podcasts and radio shows. He is the co-host of the Not Your Mamas Therapy Podcast and can be found on Instagram @lairtorrentholistictherapist. Connect with Ashley and Lair Ashley's Instagram Lair's Instagram Not Your Mama's Therapy Podcast Jump into his private community below, forums, chats, live groups, and courses. Join the community Single on Purpose is created by The Angry Therapist, John Kim, who will also be in the rotation of experts. We are starting the podcast with 20 experts across the wellness space. Check out John's website and sign up for his daily life insights in text. It's daily mental health programming in your pocket. For more content, you can follow John on Instagram YouTube, and TikTok, for more self-help-related content. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices