“I like reading the Gottman’s research, and I was looking for relationship podcasts my husband and I could listen to— so we gave this one a try.
After listening for probably a month, I’m not very impressed. It sounds to me like the podcast is taking corollary data from research and assuming a causal relationship. Then it’s going a step further and turning that data into prescriptive advice. It’s basically the equivalent of finding in research that healthy people tend to be thin, then assuming that they are healthy BECAUSE they are thin (wrong), and then telling people “If you want to be healthy, be thin!” Wrong wrong wrong. People already get the message all the time that they should be thin, just telling them to “be thin” #1 doesn’t help at all, because if they knew how they already would and #2 the data doesn’t indicate than thinness causes health.
Sorry for all the jargony language but that’s what I feel is happening. The last episode I listened to literally suggested that you should say “we” instead of “I” or “me” when talking about things because that will make your relationship happier….. what??? That does not sound right. It sounds like they found in the research that happy couples tend to do that…. But that doesn’t mean it leads to happiness. And I can think of a few good reasons to maintain your “I” and “me” in life. There have been a lot of pieces of “advice” like that, but I wanted to listen for a while to give it a chance. Chances are up.
TL;DR: I don’t think this podcast has good advice. I will be looking for a different one.”
Rebommedal via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
02/18/22