In their journey of grief, Karega and Felicia have each have had their own very individual processes in how they feel in sharing Kamaiu's story. Their truths vary as their experiences have varied. As the couple vulnerably shares, this ain't fair. None of it is fair and in all reality, no one would choose this path over having their loved one. Grief is wild that way. However, that is why Karega and Felicia create these tools of reference AND why the reframe is so important even for themselves;...

"What is present may not always be visible in the moment. At the right moment it will be seen. Its relevance requires its process and cannot be rushed." SOL Affirmations was (once again) nominated for an Ambie award which this time took them to Vegas. While in reflection, Karega and Felicia note how all of this, the podcast and the stories that they share in it, start with Kamaiu and the story that they never wanted to tell. Felicia never wanted anything to come from the loss of her first...

Mass incarceration is a type of loss. It isn't often framed that way, but you know we are all about the reframe here. In the last interview in the series from the Kennedy Center, Karega and Felicia sit down with their friend Tony Lewis Jr., a DC community leader, re-entry expert, and champion for children with mass incarcerated parents to discuss the community and specifically the youth of DC. Plus, the trio explore the concept of "at-risk" youth, and the grief, and loss experienced by those...

"Sometimes the art is showing up to the day differently than you've done before." As Karega and Felicia continued their stay in DC they knew that they needed to link up with their old friend Angel Gregorio. If you know DC, you know Angel. You know The Spice Suite, you know the work she does for the community and our people. What you probably don't know is how she has shown up for Karega and Felicia specifically in their grief. Listen in as Angel shares how her grief in losing her brothers to...

While artists in residence at the Kennedy Center, Karega & Felicia had the opportunity to sit down with their old friend husband, father, community leader, and licensed therapist Kier Gaines. In conversation they discuss not only how they have shown up for each other, but for community, and specifically the youth. It is a conversation about Black Love at it's core.

Felicia's desire for structure and Karega's desire to take the path of least resistance when it comes to parenting is looked at in depth within this episode. In this episode, both share honest thoughts about navigating through the journey of parenthood and the power struggles that come with it.

Some of you may (or may not) know but Karega is also an artist. His latest album, Legacy Lounge Season 1, features a song about Felicia (one that she lowkey has been waiting for). However it is through Karega's words that Felicia has been allowed to learn how to process her own grief, and how it gave her the space to learn to love without judgment after loss.

As Felicia and Karega come to the end of 2022 they reflect on just what this second year of SOL Affirmations has meant for them and this community they have built. Thank you all for holding space for grief, reframing, discussion, vulnerability, and above all else love. Make sure you listen to the end to hear a special announcement from Karega and Felicia!

The holidays are a time of joy for most. It's when we come together with family and friends and celebrate. However when we have lost someone we have loved, the holidays are not JUST the holidays. Sometimes the grief feels like it is fighting with the joy of the season. Karega and Felicia share just what this third year holiday season without Kamaiu on this plane is like and how navigating it with a very joyous Kamali looks like. Plus how has it changed on the journey to here. Afterall, grief...

There's just something special about being connected to your people. We all get to decide who those people are. Relatives, chosen family, and in this instance, Karega & Felicia mean their fellow Hampton Alums. It was homecoming and the trip not only allowed them the room to explore what being around other Black people and going to an HBCU meant to them, but what that community has meant to them since graduating.

Black men, it's time to get real with each other. Wellness, self-love, finance, nutrition; these are just a few topics Black Love Inc General Manager David Wasicki will be bringing to the forefront in Man to Man: A Black Love Wellness Series. Each week the topics will change, but the insights & lessons gained from Black men of all walks of life will remain constant. Man to Man serves as a platform for men to get real-life insight directly from notable, successful men who lead with the...

As we move into the last quarter of the year Karega reflects on slowing down and finally allowing himself to feel all the things. It's easy to get caught up in time as you push through the front half of the year, but in this period it seems almost necessary to talk stock. More importantly, it is okay to allow ourselves to take those moments and actually pause and feel all the things we've put off to the side for the sake of moving forward. Listen in as the Baileys process in real time their...

Grief is on going and ever changing. It is easy to get stuck in a very real fatigue of grief. There is this notion that going full force into will get you over it and Karega and Felicia have realized that such is not the case. Listen in as the couple processes the challenge of moving through grief as it shifts with time. What realizations have they arrived at in this point in year three of Kamaiu's double transition? Does it get easier?

Felicia and Karega reflect on how Kamaiu's 3rd birthday looked so much different than her first two. As a family trip gave room for not only reflection into what the family unit looks like now that Kamali is here, but in how they now acknowledge Kamaiu as she shows up differently than she had in the past. Angel parenthood is constantly changing and adjusting and there is always beauty in the reframe.

Angel parenthood comes to everyone differently, and everyone processes uniquely. Karega and Felicia first came to know of  Heather and Demitri Wilson when they were invited to be guest speakers at their event, "The Angel Ball". It was then that they came to know their story. Seven years after losing their daughter Kennedy on August 17, 2009, the idea of sewing burial gowns for infants came to Heather Wilson‘s mind. Kennedy didn’t have an appropriate or properly fitted gown for her burial,...

On September 30th, 2019, Karega and Felicia became Angel Parents to a beautiful #BabyBaileyGirl named Kamaiu SOL. Happy 3rd Birthday Kamaiu.

When trying to share how one is dealing or processing grief there is always the fear of misunderstanding. At least this has been true for Felicia. There was a fear that when she shared her story on Black Love Doc that folks wouldn't understand. There's the fear that when people hear short clips of the podcast people will jump to their own conclusions and misunderstand. It's a real fear that when paired with the weight of grief is overwhelming. This week, Felicia and Karega process in real...

How does one find gratitude in loss? In the hardest of moments? Continuing their reflections in their month of miracles and wonder Karega and Felicia reflect on how the meaning of gratitude has shifted for them since Kamaiu's double transition and how they continue to find ways to experience it.

"I honor my reality and the heart work it requires to embrace my truth. I do not have to escape my feelings or rise above them. They are true and I will let them be true." What happens when the disbelief of manifestation holds true? When one cannot honor the truth of what they have done because the grief will not allow them to embrace their truth? Felicia and Karega share what emotions from all directions look like and how creating room for love allows for true honoring of the heart work.

Peace good people! Karega, Felicia and Kamali and finishing up their month long vacation but didn't want to leave you hanging. As they travel back home they wanted to share their friend and fellow Black Love Podcast Network family member Charisse Sims' podcast Parenting for the Culture! Charisse is an educator, PBS Early Learning Champion, and a mama of six so she knows a thing or two about raising kids. Charisse is all about conscious parenting, and if you don't know what that is, well...

There's something about grief that has a way of building connections. There is a community in grief as the process, while unique to each individual and situation is a universal concept. During Karega and Felicia's deepest period of grief they found the music of Rexx Life Raj . His lyrics connected to their experiences in a way that they couldn't necessarily find words for at the time. Nor did they think that others shared certain aspects of their grief experiences until they heard Rexx...

This week Karega and Felicia discuss the grieving of the person you once were. Listen in as both share how so much loss and newness has allowed them to appreciate what the past has taught them and not needing to define what is next to come.

This week Karega and Felicia discuss the importance of rest. Listen in as both share how rest has forced them to acknowledge how important it is. Because ultimately, there is no affirmation that can replace rest.

This week Karega and Felicia celebrate their 10 year anniversary. Listen in as Karega shares how his difficulty with separating from Kamali, for an anniversary trip, ended up being a lesson on the importance of separation. While both express falling in love with one another all over again on this journey.

This week Karega and Felicia celebrate the life of Karega's brother Karim, after his passing 8 years ago. Listen in as Karega shares how acknowledging what getting better is has helped him surrender and further confront his feelings. While both share the lesson of there being no growth in the process of rushing grief.