We haven't been taught about relationships and how to become happy in couplehood. There isn't an MBA for Relationships - and there really should be. Sometimes it is just about learning the tools and having a roadmap to co-create a beautiful, loving, healing, and sexy relationship. Anne Bland shares her experience from her Tantric retreat for couples and celebrates the conscious coupling where partners can grow and heal far better than when alone, proving that both parties are willing to do...

Anne Bland says a quick hello from her Tantric retreat in France. The Art of Connection is a retreat for couples taking place in a Château. Anne is going to be back with a longer episode next week. Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching: https://link.tekmatix.com/widget/bookings/desire-call-with-anne Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools": https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-is-your-birthright Join the waiting list for the...

In this episode, Anne Bland shares her take on myths and truths about Tantra and intimate relationships. Myth number 1: Tantra Is Just About Sex. Myth number 2: Great Relationships Don't Require Effort. Myth number 3: Intimacy, Pleasure, and Sex are a Taboo. The truths according to Anne behind these myths are Truth number 1: Tantra as a Path to Self-Discovery and Connection. Truth number 2: The Value of Work and Play in Relationships. Truth number 3: Embracing Pleasure as Natural and Healthy....

When desire is unmet what happens to the relationship? Does it end or is it doomed for a lifelong disconnection? Anne Bland shares two stories, one from a woman who is ready to divorce for lack of coital orgasms, and one from a man who is fed up with just pleasuring his wife. Both are ready to leave as their sexual desires are not met. Sometimes separation is the best and the success in relationships cannot be measured by its longevity. But sometimes, they can be turned around. Anne invites...

In today's milestone 40th episode, Anne Bland extends her heartfelt thanks to the incredible community for their unwavering support and engagement. Despite a brief hiatus, the podcast continues to soar, ranking within the top 10-15% globally—thanks to your shares and reviews! This episode is a deep dive into the transformative practice of Tantra known as "The Art of Body Worshipping." Anne sheds light on the urgent need to address and dismantle the harmful beauty standards that lead to...

In this episode, Anne Bland discusses the deep satisfaction and nourishment derived from relationships that embrace intimacy beyond the physical. Anne explores how emotional, intellectual, and spiritual connections can profoundly enrich our relationships, offering understanding, validation, and a safe space for expression - not to mention the hotness of it all! Key points: 1. Emotional Intimacy: The importance of feeling understood and safe in expressing true emotions. 2. Intellectual...

Anne Bland explores sexting and dirty talking and how it can impact people who are not sexual in their erotic blueprint but, for instance, energetic or more sensual. Franziska also joins briefly to sing her Pussy-Cock song! Join Anne and Franziska for a transformative experience in France on 18-21.04.2024: "The Art of Connection – Tantric Retreat for Couples.” Learn more and book your spot here: https://tantraevoke.com/art-of-connection-retreat. Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is...

In this episode, Anne Bland returns to the podcast with fresh insights and exciting new developments. Embrace the journey of self-discovery with Tantra as Anne shares her reflections, introduces new episode formats, and discusses the upcoming "Art of Connection - Tantric Retreat for Couples." What's in This Episode: Anne's reflections on her break and the importance of embracing stillness, breath, joy, and pleasure. Introduction of the 'Buy Me a Coffee' support initiative. ...

A listener feedback and sharing from Down Under inspired Anne Bland to remember episode 29 with Franziska when they discussed if the size matters. Diversity in vulvas, pussies and penises is to be celebrated and worshipped. Apologies for a long pause towards the end. There is another section where Anne introduces a future guest who is going to share inclusive communications when it comes to LGTBQ+ people and queer sex!  Here are some resources for vulva inspiration! The Vulva Gallery:...

How to become a masterful Tantric lover? What are the best Tantric techniques for a man? In this episode, Anne Bland follows on the discussion of differences between the opposite energy poles of male and female bodies and how a man can become a better lover. Are there specific, sacred Tantric techniques or is it more about getting to know yourself as a man as one of Anne's ex-clients claim and unlearning all you've known sex to be? Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright...

In this episode, Anne Bland suggests a different, more "yin way", for men to experience pleasure based on receiving and surrendering. She discusses the different energy poles of the male and female genitalia and hearts and how they have impacted the way conventional sex is portrayed and understood in society. A man's genitalia being yang, it can be challenging for men to be a receiver of pleasure and because of the cultural conditioning it is easy to confuse the energies with the gender...

The last two episodes have been about trauma - so today it's all about pleasure, and more specifically, how to bring the Sex Goddess out of a woman. Anne Bland shares in this episode how the Taoist tradition understands genitalia from an energetic point of view: the female genitalia is more Yin and the male genitalia more Yang and what that means during turn-on, arousal and penetration. Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools":...

(NB. Trigger warning about childhood sexual trauma and child marriage) This is a coaching-style episode that starts with Anne Bland and her guest, Francy, catching up with Francy's sexual healing journey over the last six months when they first met on the "Life With Francy" podcast. For the first time, on that episode, Francy shared publically about her childhood sexual trauma by her biological father and her child marriage when she was only 14. Having been culturally conditioned that...

(NB. Trigger warning of childhood sexual abuse) The listeners have been asking for Anne Bland's personal story about why she started Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others podcast and Tantric Sex Coaching. In this episode, Anne is finally ready to get vulnerable and talk about her personal healing story which has been traumatic and painful but also full of love and light, pleasure and connection. This journey has made Anne who she is today and the way she can hold space for her coaching clients...

Have you had a full-body orgasm? What elements have to be present to achieve that? Anne Bland shares a listener's story of self-care pleasure practice and how he used some of the holistic Tantric sex tools such as breathing and presence to edge into pleasure wave after wave. She also celebrates the 30th episode and six months worth of weekly episodes thanking the listeners and her guests. Pleasure Quest is now open for purchasing and it starts on 15th Sep 2023 where anyone learn to practice...

In this episode, Anne Bland is joined by Franziska Amoris to discuss whether size matters in sex. They cover the topic from both the penis and vagina/vulva points of view. Does size matter in sexual intercourse or anal play? What is the impact of the uniform image of "the porn pussy" on women's self-confidence? They are inviting more acceptance of diversity and connection to one's own genitalia - whatever it looks like. Franziska referred to episode 04: How To Make My Partner Want Sex with...

How do you self-pleasure? How do you m********e? Is Tantric self-pleasure different from the "normal" one? Anne Bland shares her ideas for Tantric self-pleasure in this episode - whether you want to do it on a mountaintop or on a train! Many mistakenly think that Tantric self-pleasure is to go slow and have incense and candles, but it can also be a Tantric quickie. The difference is mindfulness and going intentionally without any guilt or shame. Tantra can also be about the flow between the...

"What is your secret pleasure?" Anne Bland asked on her Instagram @selfishlyhappywithannebland story - and people answered: massage, knitting, binge-watching, body-to-body contact, slow foreplay, observing a woman's body, and breast massage amongst others! Based on Anne's philosophy of Selfishly Happy Revolution, there's no guilt in pleasure that doesn't harm anyone else. In fact, it should be celebrated! There is science behind pleasure. Happy hormones such as endorphins, dopamine, and...

"If you always do what interests you at least one person is pleased," Katherine Hepburn said wisely. You cannot please everyone, so why not please yourself? Selfishly Happy Revolution is all about becoming aware of your own needs and desires and taking responsibility to meet them. In this episode, Anne Bland shares what helps her to start the mornings either with bursting energy or with calm peace, whichever in her body feels most needed. Laughter Yoga and Deep Inner Smile are ancient...

Summer vacations can be stressful and can leave you wanting to have another holiday just to recover from the first one! According to research, vacations can also increase depression and trigger relationship break-ups. And why do we degenerate into being children again and react to others in a way that we regret? Anne Bland shares her five Tantric Tips on how to enjoy happy holidays whether you are a solo traveler, have a vacation with a lover, or have multigenerational holidays. They are,...

How to look after your love relationship, your lovership? What are the concrete and conscious ways to put your you and your partner's love first? Creating a "couple bubble" is a practice that will help your relationship to thrive and become sustainable. You can do this by learning what your lover's love language is. Do they prefer touch or gifts? Or maybe they love spending quality time with you or receiving well-thought gifts from you. How can you communicate to your partner in a way that...

A listener asks: "Why do I cry during sex? My partner is so upset because he thinks he's hurting me. But he's not! Why do I cry? What can I do?" Anne Bland discusses emotions during sex and how liberating, energising, and very normal they are. Did you know that emotions and feelings are different and not synonyms? Emotions tend to be suppressed and based on past experiences. They can become dramatic, destructive, and unkind due to the unexpressed nature of them. They are based on the ego and...

Is sex over when you hit 50? How can a middle-aged woman continue enjoying pleasure, to feel juicy and succulent? How to tackle the changing of a body, hair, emotions, home, relationship, and even temperature? And what is a middle-aged woman called after the Maiden and the Mother and before the Crone? Anne Bland is joined by Australian Lisa Tösher who is ready to hibernate in her seasonal winter whereas Anne is enjoying the Finnish midsummer.  Curiosity, acceptance, celebration, and...

Do you know how to kiss? Like truly kiss? You might have experienced the awkward first kiss, the not-so-aligned kiss, and perhaps unfortunately, even a kiss without your free will. But have you had a Tantric Kiss? Anne Bland shares her six tips on how to practice Tantric Kissing - and what not to do. To join the waiting list for the "Pleasure Quest", Anne's new private podcast, please go here: https://selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-quest-waiting-list/ And if you wish to join the emailing...