"What is your secret pleasure?" Anne Bland asked on her Instagram @selfishlyhappywithannebland story - and people answered: massage, knitting, binge-watching, body-to-body contact, slow foreplay, observing a woman's body, and breast massage amongst others! Based on Anne's philosophy of Selfishly Happy Revolution, there's no guilt in pleasure that doesn't harm anyone else. In fact, it should be celebrated! There is science behind pleasure. Happy hormones such as endorphins, dopamine, and...

"If you always do what interests you at least one person is pleased," Katherine Hepburn said wisely. You cannot please everyone, so why not please yourself? Selfishly Happy Revolution is all about becoming aware of your own needs and desires and taking responsibility to meet them. In this episode, Anne Bland shares what helps her to start the mornings either with bursting energy or with calm peace, whichever in her body feels most needed. Laughter Yoga and Deep Inner Smile are ancient...

Summer vacations can be stressful and can leave you wanting to have another holiday just to recover from the first one! According to research, vacations can also increase depression and trigger relationship break-ups. And why do we degenerate into being children again and react to others in a way that we regret? Anne Bland shares her five Tantric Tips on how to enjoy happy holidays whether you are a solo traveler, have a vacation with a lover, or have multigenerational holidays. They are,...

How to look after your love relationship, your lovership? What are the concrete and conscious ways to put your you and your partner's love first? Creating a "couple bubble" is a practice that will help your relationship to thrive and become sustainable. You can do this by learning what your lover's love language is. Do they prefer touch or gifts? Or maybe they love spending quality time with you or receiving well-thought gifts from you. How can you communicate to your partner in a way that...

A listener asks: "Why do I cry during sex? My partner is so upset because he thinks he's hurting me. But he's not! Why do I cry? What can I do?" Anne Bland discusses emotions during sex and how liberating, energising, and very normal they are. Did you know that emotions and feelings are different and not synonyms? Emotions tend to be suppressed and based on past experiences. They can become dramatic, destructive, and unkind due to the unexpressed nature of them. They are based on the ego and...

Is sex over when you hit 50? How can a middle-aged woman continue enjoying pleasure, to feel juicy and succulent? How to tackle the changing of a body, hair, emotions, home, relationship, and even temperature? And what is a middle-aged woman called after the Maiden and the Mother and before the Crone? Anne Bland is joined by Australian Lisa Tösher who is ready to hibernate in her seasonal winter whereas Anne is enjoying the Finnish midsummer.  Curiosity, acceptance, celebration, and...

Do you know how to kiss? Like truly kiss? You might have experienced the awkward first kiss, the not-so-aligned kiss, and perhaps unfortunately, even a kiss without your free will. But have you had a Tantric Kiss? Anne Bland shares her six tips on how to practice Tantric Kissing - and what not to do. To join the waiting list for the "Pleasure Quest", Anne's new private podcast, please go here: https://selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-quest-waiting-list/ And if you wish to join the emailing...

How to get a partner for the summer? Anne Bland tells you exactly how to manifest a lover or lovers, or a long-term partner based on the Finnish "Juhannus" tradition. It does involve a lot of nakedness! If you'd like to download Anne's Tantric guide, "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools" for self-pleasure and partnered sex you can do it here: https://selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-is-your-birthright/ If you'd like to join the waiting list for the Pleasure Quest, please go...

"On orgasm a day, keeps the Doctor away," said Mae West, the Hollywood Star, famously. But what is an orgasm? Really? And why are so many people turning away from sex?  Anne Bland discusses orgasm including the current medical and reproductive model of it and how the Tantric definition and practice could help us fall in love with sex again. She shares how you can prepare yourself for Tantric orgasms physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. Anne also gives an easy Tantric Sex...

SexBots are coming. To the bedroom near you! Will the promise of AI sex robots become reality: no more prostitution, sex crime or loneliness? Or is it a dystopian fantasy of the ones who are desperate to maintain the status quo of diminishing women into obedient sex objects? Anne Bland claims that there is another option. The inner technology of ancient Tantra that has been proven for thousands of years to actually work in bringing more happiness, pleasure and peace on earth and for...

Did Anne Bland actually have a 'dry spell' and her creative juices stopped flowing when she was creating this episode about the Tantric Pleasure Pump, i.e., the sexual energy? Or was she just curious about how much chatGPT knows about Tantric sex and sexual energy as a path to enlightenment as she claims? Is there a 'Wild World of Tantra'? What is the 'Juicy Connection Between Energy and Pleasure'? How can you 'Unleash Your Inner Tantric Superhero'? What about 'Tantric Playgrounds - Bringing...

Anne Bland gets curious about what is a "modern man." What does it look like to be a man in his power as a leader in society and in relationships sexually as well? What does it mean to be a conscious, spiritually awakened, and very sexy man? Anne invites Mikey Brackett to discuss what the "modern man" looks like and why the "Warrior archetype" can be, from the Jungian Psychology point of view, harmful to men and their loved ones. The Warrior is part of four main masculine archetypes. The...

What is Tantric coaching? What happens in the sessions? Is there nudity? Anne Bland shares how she approaches Tantric coaching in her private practice. The coaching container that she creates is accepting and welcoming where it is safe to explore issues and desires linked to sex, love, and relationships. Her methodology is gentle but transformative using embodiment, meditative, and pleasure processes, including the seven holistic sex tools such as breathwork and movement. Anne loves...

In this first coaching-style episode Anne Bland puts her expertise to the test and does 30 minutes of free Tantric sex and relationship coaching on one question or desire that a guest brings to her. Very bravely Elikqitie showed up with an issue that her friends as a couple are facing: how to talk about sex with an introverted partner. Anne has seen in her coaching practice that a lack of honest and authentic communication is one of the main issues couples have when it comes to sex. It can...

Anne Bland discusses the importance of the 6th holistic, Tantric sex tool, movement, in your life, and especially, in your sexual life. There is a variety of erotic movements that leads to liberation, connection, and increased life force both within you and with your partner, even if there has been trauma, disconnection, and numbness. Movement is your arousal trampoline! Both external and internal movement... How do you move? Are you aware? Waht if you changed it? How would it feel? And...

Anne Bland and Franziska Amoris continue their ‘fireside sharing’ on the topic of Tantric Touch, including the Pussy and Penis Massages. As Anne says, “Penises don’t get enough right kind of attention.” Healing through touch can help individuals to finish their stress and trauma cycles in a safe way and have more freedom from pain. It can also bring liberation from performance anxiety, give relaxation, help to access love, deep satisfaction, and nourishment. But when is a touch not okay?...

In this part 1, you'll learn how to touch in a Tantric way when having a solo or partnered sexual play. In this rich episode Anne Bland and Franziska Amoris talk about the healing touch of Tantra and how it can help you to (re)connect with your body and get out of your thinking mind. You will also hear how Franziska uses 'non-touch of Tantra', i.e., energetic touch, to get off! What is energetic touch and can you really have an orgasm without touching?  Finally, you will learn in detail what...

"I'll have what she's having!" exclaimed a woman in the next table to Meg Ryan when she, as Sally, faked an orgasm 34-years ago in the classic movie "When Harry Met Sally." And why not?! We'd all want a bit of what she was having. Sexual sounding is very much linked to orgasming and that of a woman. Yet, 80% of women say they have faked an orgasm, just like Sally. Based on studies women mainly fake orgasms and pleasure to either make their partners feel good about themselves or to make the...

Why is breath important to your daily life and to your sex life? Did you know that breathwork can increase pleasure, intimacy and connection whether solo or partnered play? Or that it can help you to control your arousal, desire and even the timing of your orgasms? Anne Bland explores what is breathwork, the role of breathwork in Tantra and Tantric Sex and how incorporating breathwork into your daily life can improve your overall happiness and well-being. As a certified breath coach she also...

Would you like to be coached for free by Anne Bland? You can on her podcast! Anne is launching a new coaching-styled episode called "Asking for a Friend." Instead of asking for yourself, you might like to be "asking for a friend" about sex, love and relationships? If you have friends that are too shy, embarrassed, or busy to ask about Tantric Sex themselves, you could do it for them! Just like Amanda who came on the show in this episode and asked for her friends about the physical signs of...

Tantric Sex as a hobby? Why not!? In Finnish, there is a saying "harrastaa seksiä," to hobby some sex - so why not Tantric Hobby Sex? Anne Bland shares how you can learn holistic Tantric Sex Tools to enhance, spice up and make more intimate and connected love to yourself through self-pleasuring or to your partners. Tantric Sex is good for every one: Tantra denies and excludes nothing but transfroms everything! You can download Anne's free eBook to learn more about Tantric Sex Tools: Pleasure...

Have you noticed any patterns in your relationships? The way you are attracted to similar types of partners? Or they way you show up as a lover and the way you have sex? Well, it may have lots to do how you were loved as a child and what models of relationships you had from your parents. Attachement styles can help you to make sense what's going on in your relationships and in the bedroom. On a personal level, this episode proved to be a bit emotional towards the end for the host Anne Bland...

Only after four episodes YOU, the listeners, have made this podcast trending in sexuality category in three different countries! A big shout-out and thank you to YOU! In this solo episode Anne Bland lets her Inner Nerd out (again) to explore the science behind female sexual arousal and turn-on and why women's pleasure is different to the men's arousal and turn-on. Interestingly, she claims that what modern science has only recently discovered about human turn-on, classical Tantra taught...

“Too much of good thing can be wonderful,” said Mae West, a Hollywood Star. In this episode Anne Bland invites Franziska Amoris back on this Tantri Sex show and they are joined by Lady Jin to discuss turn-on and arousal - and "how to make my partner want me more" or "to want to have more sex with me" as Anne was asked on her monthly live Q&A on Instagram. Yet, pleasure is so much more than just penetration and intercourse! Relationships, bodies and things that make us turned-on change...

If you lived in a healthy society that embraced sexuality and celebrated it, what would it look like? Anne Bland shares her vision for "5 Stages of Tantric Sexuality" in an ideal culture. She also reflects on the discussions with Franziska and Amanda on episode two about their Tantric Sex Journey - and proposes a new word for 'courageous' to match the braveness of 'the balls': VULVACIOUS. Because... why not!? ------- This open and brutally honest podcast is for you if you are ready to...