In this episode, I share the costs of reassurance seeking, the act of trying to find certainty about your relationship. If you tend to constantly be searching for the perfect piece of advice (even from me!), you’re addicted to the illusion of certainty as a means of feeling safe. Listen to this episode for things you can do instead to re-ignite the spark in your relationship and not dampen it through reassurance-seeking.   Links:  Both Feet In: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Patreon - next call May 15: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Apply to work with me 1:1: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie   2:28  Why do we seek assurance when we have relationship anxiety? 7:50  The hidden costs of assurance seeking 12:35  How assurance-seeking can make your partner seem less attractive to you 16:50  The importance of standing on your own two feet in terms of self-trust 20:00 The danger of becoming addicted to certainty 28:30  Healthier alternatives to assurance seeking 33:27 - Your partner is in their own process, they cannot come to your rescue