If you’ve been preoccupied with thoughts about your ex, or are comparing your relationship to your ex, or are even grieving the un-pursued romance of a crush outside your partnership, you’re normal– and this episode is for you. In this episode, I share what these thoughts are really about (hint: it’s not the ex), and share how to use the crush-mirror to bring ourselves back onto our own papers into wholeness. I also share a vulnerable story of how I have done this for myself.   Links:  Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Both Feet In – my self-study course: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Pick my brain by submitting a Wisio: https://www.wisio.com/anxiouslovecoach Be in my world 1:1 for 3 months in my Overhaul program: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/1-on-1-coaching-with-natalie   Time Stamps: 5:45 Seeking out chaos when we are with a stable, level-headed partner 10:00  A story about a crush I’ve thought about for over 10 years 19:50  Finding parts from your crush/ex that are missing in yourself 23:00  The ego would love to see someone who is unavailable become available 25:45  The dangers of putting the responsibility for your aliveness on another person 29:25  How a spiritual practice can help with anxiety