In this episode Anniki and Lisa discuss what happens to your relationship after you have kids. Why is it that we often get locked into the same arguments and are there any strategies to break free? Why do some new mothers resent their partner when they try to help and then hate them when they don’t? They also discuss the joys of Lidl and why it's often Anniki's friends want to talk about. There’s also an interview with US author- Jancee Dunn, who wrote the brilliant book, 'How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids'. She offers up lots of advice on practical things you can do to improve your relationship including some tips she picked up from FBI hostage negotiators. Finally, The Hotbed will be appearing at this year's Camp Bestival so hear details of that too! Keep your eyes on our Instagram account - @thehotbedcollective - for details of a prize draw to win a copy of Jancee's book. Resources: Jancee Dunn’s book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Hate-Your-Husband-After-Kids/dp/1784754773/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=jancee+dunn&qid=1554576013&s=gateway&sr=8-1-spell   More info on how to communicate more effectively with your other half: https://www.hprc-online.org/articles/performance-strategies-basic-training-for-couples-communication   Counselling info: https://www.relate.org.uk   Camp Bestival line up and tickets: https://www.campbestival.net