You are ready to settle down. You have so much love to give and just want someone that will treat you as good as you treat them. But somehow, it seems like your kindness is mistaken for weakness and your good intentions are not appreciated at all. Listen to this episode to avoid costly mistakes single women make that give them the opposite results than what they were looking for. 

Praying for a husband? CHECK Going out to meet new people? CHECK Stopped letting loser guys take up space in your life? CHECK So what's next? What do you do while waiting for God to you know.... fulfill His promise and give you the man of your dreams and a million dollars? Half-kidding about the million. But there ARE things you can do while you wait for the man of your dreams, I break them down in this episode.

Waiting to meet THAT person is one of the hardest parts of being single. Here's some encouragement and practical tips on the best way to maximize that time. Let me know if it helps you!

I get asked these questions a LOT. "How do I meet Christian guys?" "How do I get them to notice me?" I give some tips to try in this episode.

You don't have to cross your fingers and hope for the best when it comes to choosing a life partner. There are some definite qualities to look for in a man that if found give you the potential to experience heaven on Earth in your marriage. There are also some other signs that if you see could mean disaster and more time on your knees than necessary. This episode details some of those negative signs. Chooser beware. P.S. Register for my Powerful Purity Conference here:...

Don't feel obligated to continue talking to any man that you sense may not be right for you. Cut to the chase and disappear. I show you how in this episode. 

Men don't talk. Well, sure they will talk about sports and hobbies and work.... But what about their dreams, things they dislike, or what their thinking. When you get married, it can seem like they talk less and less as time goes on. The interesting thing is that nothing is wrong most times. What can you do then to make him talk to you more and open up about the things that may be on his heart? I give you the secret in this episode. Check out other "The First Years" episodes November...

Really. How are you? mentally emotionally spiritually financially physically socially  Rate yourself honestly and get to work. 

Nobody has the time to spend their married life praying for their husband to make some drastic changes. Talk to some married women. You can't change a man. When choosing the right guy make sure your eyes are wide open and your footing is sure. 

You can't avoid a broken heart. It comes with the territory right? Once you put yourself out there, it's just a matter of time. Someone will crush your heart and hurt you so bad that it will completely immobilize you. This is not exactly true...... There is one thing in particular, that if you do it, will help you bounce back from a broken heart 1,000 times faster or avoid it completely. I tell you the secret in this episode.

Sure, you want to get married but are you available? I mean, really and truly available. Before God can bring one of His good men into your life, you have to be available. Check out this episode to see what I mean. 

A man can support you. He can help you, guide you and love you. A man can even inspire you, build you up and encourage you to be the best version of yourself. However, there are 3 things he cannot do for you.  Listen to this episode to avoid having the wrong expectations.

Have you ever wondered if a guy really cares about you?  How can you tell if he really loves you?  If this episode I give you two simple ways to put him to the test 

Yes Girl. There are men that want to do dating and marriage God's way. There are men that are preparing to be a husband just like you are preparing to be a wife. It's refreshing! He's not the only one so don't settle!

No one is worth you compromising your integrity or the things God has for you. No matter what, stay true to who you are & to Gods word. Speaking of not compromising, don’t ever compromise the quality of man that you believe God for. I have a conference coming up on 2/3/22 that will show you how to meet a good man & set yourself up for lasting love. I would love to see you there. Register here : https://www.eventbrite.com/e/find-fascinate-tickets-250933217007

What is your temperament? Can you live with someone very different from you? These are very important questions for you to know the answer to before getting married. Find out your temperament here: https://www.temperamentquiz.com/

You're not the same person you were ten years ago. There's a very big chance that you won't be the same person you are now, ten years from now. How do you make sure that you choose someone that fits your future?  I give you 3 very important steps in this episode.

When setting goals, set at least 1  in each of the categories below. To be truly happy, your life needs balance.  If you focus only on success and neglect fun it will affect you .   Nine core Areas of life:  SpiritualFamilyMinistryHealthCareer/BusinessFinances  Intellectual developmentSocial (Network) Fun Also make sure that you don’t do the 3 things in this episode. 

Tall Confident Sophisticated Very Handsome Tatooed Bearded Muscular Cocky Wealthy Is there a "type" of guy that always seems to get your attention?  Is that "type" of guy a weakness for you?  Meaning that you ignore their bad behavior or lower your standards to remain with them. No man is worth you changing your value system or settling for being treated less than you deserve. If you notice a pattern of falling for the wrong type of guy, I teach you what to do in this episode.

You really have what it takes to have an amazing year . Buuuuuuuuuuuutttt You have to be intentional. One of the ways, is to forget about certain things. I'll start you off with three.

When you get married how do you want the atmosphere of your house to be? Tense JoyfulPeacefulSpitefulBelieve it or not, you will be the thermostat in the home. The woman has the power to control the atmosphere with her words, her influence & her respect. Proverbs 14:1 New International Version The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Create your own heaven on Earth in your marriage. It starts with a decision.  The first decision is that...

The other day I heard a story of a man that strung a woman along for 10 years.  He kept promising they would get married & that things would change but it never happened.  Finally, out of frustration she left him. Good for her.......but she had given 10 years to an unhappy relationship. Most times, women stay in such situations because they feel they've already invested so much time into the relationship. It's hard to let go of something familiar even if its hurting you. We tell...

Darling, You need to keep a running reject list going.  There are men that you don't have to entertain or give a second chance to. There are things that they do that should land them in "dating jail" and on your reject list. When you meet one of them: Do not stop for gasDo not stop for ice-cream Do not stop to explainPut them on the reject list and keep moving. Life is short. You don't have even a second to waste with the wrong man. Love you! 

Marriage is fun, exciting and really enjoyable. But the first few years of marriage can be challenging for many people. It takes skill, maturity and a whole lot of JESUS. The better prepared you are, the better chance you have of experiencing Heaven on Earth in my marriage. Kettelye shares the secrets that helped her own marriage thrive in it's first year and beyond.  follow her on instagram @kettelye.marie