Last week’s episode with Edie Cob (S3EP34 https://omny.fm/shows/menace-2-sobriety/034-m2s ) gave Dan new insight into his own stories of addiction and why he sometimes acted the way he did, particularly in regards to the birth of his children. It meant he spent the weekend unpicking his emotions and thoughts around why he acted the way he did. In this solo episode, he talks through this process and talks about the difficulties when being so open about his personal experiences with addiction. Dan also talks about why drink and drugs are never the problem in the beginning, they are a solution to the real underlying problem. KEY TAKEAWAYS For everyone, including men, talking and beginning to understand the emotions you have and why they are there is the start to being able to heal. When Dan relapsed previously, he didn’t recognise it for what it was. His addict mentality would kick in when he was stressed and would tell himself he deserved the drinks and drugs. Sobriety has enabled Dan to work on himself, stripping down his thoughts, feelings and emotions so he can face them head-on. After speaking to Edie and realising the enormity of going on sessions after the birth of his children, Dan knew he needed to speak to Shelley and take accountability. Talking about these types of things can bring back guilt and shame, which is very difficult to sit with once you are sober. The drink and drugs never started off as the problem, they were the solution to the emotions Dan couldn’t deal with. Drink and drugs are never the problem for any addict, they are a solution for all matter of things, from trauma to stress and everything in between. Before going sober, Dan didn’t recognise how his drinking would impact special events. As well as the birth of his children, his addiction even tainted his wedding day. Dan’s personal growth can sometimes show others where they need to assess and grow, this can mean he can get backlash from individuals who aren’t ready to face things. BEST MOMENTS  "Talking and trying to understand how you feel, why  you get emotional, what triggers you, is the path to healing” “Without sobriety, having something to work on, I wouldn’t have all these things to unpick” “It got out of hand like it always did with the drinking” ”You have to take accountability, you can’t just blame the addiction” “The emotions are the cause of my addiction” VALUABLE RESOURCES Edie Cob episode: S3EP34 https://omny.fm/shows/menace-2-sobriety/034-m2s  https://www.cocaineanonymous.org.uk CONTACT METHOD Instagram Facebook Twitter   ABOUT THE HOSTS Daniel O’Reilly Daniel O’Reilly is one of the UK’s Largest Influencers, a comedian, actor, musician, viral video star and social influencer. With a portfolio of businesses Daniel enjoys a busy lifestyle mixed with business and pleasure. Daniel is a father to two beautiful girls and enjoys spending quality time with them and his wife Shelley. With 2022 being a busy year, Daniel sold out his O2 stand-up show, released his British movie 'The Last Heist'  and is currently preparing for the upcoming release of his other film 'Miss The Kiss'. Daniel is a creative through and through, with a passion to strive in everything he does. Daniel is looking forward to the release of his podcast 'Menace 2 Sobriety' in 2023, his long-term position on GB News, Headliners, and the growing slate of films in the works with his production company, HYPRR.  Kirk Norcross Instagram “My name is Kirk Norcross, I’m 34 years old, I had a pretty good run, a TV career which I can’t even remember hardly any of that, drugs consumed my life I always used drugs like an addict but I didn’t use them all the time until my fiancé split up with me for no reason and never gave me a reason and I was so upset, hurt and confused. I started using drugs to self-medicate to shut my brain down to stop thinking and then spiral turned and turned and turned until I was